Well, its been months since this blog had started, and honestly I didn’t talk much about myself, as much as I wish I do!

To get rid of the anonymity between you and me, I am for once dedicate this post to talk all about me!

Yay, all about Grey! The blabbering bastard that gets high on listening to a guy singing like a girl and talks about sex all the time. Yeesh, what kind of a person is that?

I will not bore you with how many hairstyles I have changed in my life or how many pets I have at home. Instead, I will share with you my interests and thoughts that means a lot to me of who I am.

Well, lets just keep it short, come and learn all about me today!

Warning: Really, really long post ahead!

The Basics First

Grey got a new haircut, like yesterday!

By the time I write this post I’m still 22. In 4 months time I’m going to be 23, and oh, time flies! 23 years gone in my life, and what have I done? Catching up with all those porn probably.

It felt like yesterday that I have just graduated from Confucious Private Secondary School and moved on to KBU International College. I graduated from college in Graphic Design, and now I am working in Piradius Design as a web designer.

Doesn’t show through huh? Yeah I think so too. I’m a designer that talks and craps more than design. ;)

Besides that, I am also a choir singer for around 9 years now, and a crappy piano player for around 7 years. I started late in my teens, I’m not greatly talented, but I still enjoy playing it as a hobby. As I always say, if you start now, when you’re 50 years old you’ve probably played for more than 30 years! Isn’t that an achievement? :D

I love my Chinese and English

My mom thinks that the whole family are bananas who can’t read chinese, so it’s a wise thing to send me to a chinese secondary school. I appreciated that, of course! The Chinese culture is fascinating, 5000 years worth of culture is not something that you can feel in matter of minutes. There are so much Confucianism and Taoism values that I had absorbed and learned to appreciate today.

Many people make the “Confucianism is confusing” joke. Well it’s funny a little, but Confucianism is a very highly respected set of moral values to the Chinese. Go read about it and you will see why, it determines almost 80% of all about Chinese culture today, from values in filial piety to relationships. Mostly everything.

Grey is so desperate he'll eat anything. Really!

Then there’s the English world that I’ve come across in college. Thanks to the banana friends and the English nature of the course, I had to brush up my English language skills like from zero to hero. Well not really hero now neither, but you get what I mean. :P

My banana friends had introduced me to the world of the Western culture. They listened to Rihanna and Lady Gaga, they watched Heroes and Harry Potter, they followed American Idol and So You Think You Can Dance… None, and I mean none of these I have ever come across during my secondary school life. And I love them for doing so. I was a total Taiwan and Hong Kong follower back in secondary school, now I guess I’m a global guy.

An Open Mind

I'm in Second Life! If you're in, look me up, the name is Dadaist Gears. ;)

A mix of both worlds had opened my eyes to many things indeed. And with a mix of a third world it really got me going to have the urge seeing the world even more.

What third world, you say? It’s Second Life. For a time during my college I was so free and I came upon this online 3d world community/game thing. And I was hooked, very hooked. There are so much cultural diversity in there that you can never explore it all. I tried, and I was amazed.

Second Life showed me that the world is not as simple as what the media wants us to see. There are so much other subcultures that we can never know from the TV or radio. There are the furries, the Goreans, the steampunks, the goths, the adult scenes, the nekos. There are so much room for experimental developments, so many groups to look into, so wide the spectrum that I was overwhelmed initially.

Then it came to me that the world is really much larger than what we think it is. There are so much to see, so much to learn, the only way to get through all of it is to embrace the differences.

Perhaps this is why I am so open to talk about just anything, because I have a real high threshold for shock factor and differences.

Classical music, the alternative music today

Whenever I tell people that I like classical music, they will give me the look of detest, “Oh that’s some boring crap!” or the trying-very-hard-to-feel-the-same, “Oh I like classical music too! The violins and what’s that thing again… flute? Yeah, the blowy thing. I like that.”

The thing is that many young people don’t listen to classical music anymore, because it is difficult music. It is harder to relate to compared to those disco beats or Top 40 tunes. It has a much more complicated form and if you’re not used to it, you’re prone to fall asleep because of its relaxing effects.

I like relaxing music. Classical music does that for me, and I love it. They may be difficult to catch at first, but if you spend some time reading about it you will appreciate them much more. After all, classical music had always have the dramatic effect that can bring you so much up and down. Listen to these music here, here and here. Each of those music are written 100 years apart, they still are really good today, aren’t they?

Classical music is evergreen, because they’re the essence of history. They reflect the spirit of their times, and can still reflect the spirit of our times today. We love classical music because of it’s power to bring joy and excitement just about anyone, as long as you open your ears to it. Really, try it. ;)

I Love My Sex

Grey is with Sugar. Well not really a sweet mouth!

In case you haven’t notice by now, I love my sex. I’m very vocal about my porns and I am not afraid to share about sex. I guess one of the reasons why there is that I think that sex is a very human thing, yet most of us are afraid to talk about it due to our Confucianism teachings (see above!).

Sex makes us all happy. And let’s be honest, the word “sex” itself makes you feel curious already. All of us are attracted to sex because of it’s status of being a taboo in our society, it’s like a secret interest that is not so secret anymore.

This blog is made to be an open conversation to be just about anything. I bring up many interesting and sometimes controversial issues so that we can share ideas. And sex is part of it. And I love it. ;)

The Net Is My Life

Without Internet, I will probably rot and die in minutes. I spend almost 15 hours of my time online every day, well partly because of work, but it is pretty much my love and passion.

There are so much to watch on YouTube, so much to share on Facebook, so much to explore on StumbleUpon, and so much to read just every else. Call me addicted if you must, but if addicted is what I am being coined to enrich my life with, I’m really proud and willing to be an addict.

Grey loves his food! Really!!

Oh no, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have a life. I go out with friends regularly, I enjoy a walk at the mall, I enjoy traveling, I enjoy great food at great places, I enjoy dating with my boy. Just anytime other than that, being online is what I will do.

Thats why I love my broadband too. I probably use it to the max. Without it, I’ll probably sleep till it’s there.

And online is where you can find me!

Grey trying to act cute. Fail!

If what I have written here is not enough for you to feed your curiousity, well you can always catch me on the Net!

My net nickname is Conancat, it’s a mixture of my love for both Detective Conan and cats back in my secondary school days. Apparently it had become so catchy that I decided to keep it forever. ;)

So thats why you will find that my Facebook, Twitter and Plurk all goes by the name of Conancat.

Even my MSN has conancat on it! Like, conan_cat87@hotmail.com!

So does my Gmail, conancat@gmail.com, and of course the new Google Wave, conancat@googlewave.com.

So hey, lets not be strangers, shall we? :) Let’s talk, like, really talk!

Add me anywhere above, or even better, everywhere above, and buzz me to drop me a tell me more about you! :D

Of course, that doesn’t mean you should save the comments for yourself neither. Drop a comment below, and tell me what you think about me! :)

Let’s just face it, many of us guys (and some girls) grow up in a world where nobody teaches us the truth about real sex.

We know how to wear a condom goddammit, that’s all the school teaches you. But there’s so much more in sex that we don’t know when we are young.

Then porn became our first source of “sex education”. Sadly, porn distorts sex to make it more pleasurable to view. Porn is fantasy, not reality.

If you believe porn sex is the right kind of sex, you’re wrong.

This talk by Cindy Gallop has led us to Make Love Not Porn, a site devoted to reveal the differences between porn sex and real world sex. Yes, there are a lot of differences.

If you’ve been watching porn as the source of inspiration for your sex, then read on to find out the cruel truths.

Make Love, Not Porn

Cindy Gallop explains the rationale behind the Make Love Not Porn website at TED Talks. TED Talks is a very prestigious event where professionals of the world gather to listen to talks by the avant-gardes in the fields of technology, entertainment and design.

And Cindy is there to talk about porn. Mmm. You can imagine how much attention it stirred. I’m sure many women wanted to rant this out for a long time, Cindy is a genius to actually do something about it.

Spend 4 minutes to watch this video and get to know why women (and some men) are so frustrated with most men who believe porn sex is the right kind of sex. Wrong.

Now you believe me.

Porn Is Fantasy

Porn Sex Is Fantasy

Sorry to put you down, but that’s the truth. Porn is fantasy. Porn is a multi-million dollar industry creating videos for our viewing pleasure. They are directed, controlled and the actors are professionals. Even the ones that claims to be amateur or the “first-time” ones had probably done it a few hundred times before getting on to the camera.

Porn is created to satisfy men’s (and some women’s) fantasy. So of course you can’t take them as real. Real sex is different. We have to satisfy and respect both parties in real life sex. While some things you see in porn can be universally true, some things are just made a general practice in porn for fantasy purposes.

Oh no, I’m not telling you to not watch porn. I’m a porn junkie myself and I watch plenty of porn. But you just have to know that some things can be learned while most things are for viewing pleasures only.

Here are some examples taken from the Make Love Not Porn website:

Porn world: Men love coming on women’s faces, and women love having men come on their faces.
Real world: Some women like this, some women don’t. Some guys like to do this, some guys don’t. Entirely up to personal choice.

Porn world: Women come all the time in positions where nothing is going on anywhere near the clit.
Real world: There has to be some sort of rhythmic pressure on the clit in just the right way to make a women come. Can be pubic bone, tongue, fingers, something else entirely. But it has to be there.

Porn world: Women have no hair down there.
Real world: Some women shave, some women don’t. Some men actively prefer women to keep their hair. If you do shave, it requires constant maintenance which can be a pain in the ass. Entirely up to personal choice.

Note: And damn right! I’m not going to do it again for the rest of my life!! :X

Porn world: Women love being called ‘bitch’ and ‘whore’ while fucking.
Real world: Some people like dirty talk, some don’t. Some do it naturally, others can’t bring themselves to. Some women get turned on by abusive terms, other’s don’t. If you don’t like what’s being said to you during sex, say so. If you do like what’s being said, say so.

Note: However I tend to find this true on Western porn. Japanese porn tends to be less verbal during sex though. :P

Porn world: Women love being made to gag during blowjobs by having their heads grabbed and a man’s cock shoved forcibly right down their throats.
Real world: Some women may like this, but based on an unscientific sample, an awful lot don’t. Suffocating, choking, retching and having your gag reflex kick in is a real buzz-kill during sex.

That’s just part of them.

It doesn’t only apply to heterosexual sex, it applies to gay sex as well. Gay porn are as vulgar or possibly more vulgar than straight porn, and many guys out there really get the wrong idea about it!

If you want more as well as dozens of other user commented “tips”, check out the Make Love Not Porn website.

So the next time you watch porn, remember, it’s just porn. It’s not real. Real sex is different and comes with practice. Well for those who doesn’t have the chance to practice, you will know when time comes. Not everything can be learned from porn. Perhaps you can learn more from Make Love Not Porn. ;)

Do you have any rants and complaints about your boyfriend/girlfriend when it comes to sex, and it awfully resembles what he/she watched in porn?

The porn industry is a 3 billion USD a year industry. Every second 266 new porn website goes live. Every minute there are 2 million people looking at porn.

I must admit, porn is one topic that everybody wants to know about and nobody talks about.

We consume porn so much these days it’s becoming a commodity. And do you know the porn industry is dying too, because of piracy?

Well, you won’t find porn images of this post. Last time we discussed about why masturbation porn videos are so popular. But then when you come to think of it, people just watch porn. Any porn. Who cares what porn it is.

Porn Hub--Makes Your Dick Bigger And Gets Your Pussy Wet

Pornhub’s tagline is really catchy. It’s what porn is all about. Giving people an escapism by indulging in visual carnal pleasures. You can’t get it but you can still enjoy watching it, no? I’m sure all of you guys (and some girls) here has somehow downloaded porn before, or at least watched some. It’s everyone’s dirty little secret I know. >:)

According to the dictionary definition,

Porn (pôr’n?) Slang. The noun has one meaning:

creative activity (writing or pictures or films etc.) of no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire

Or is it?

If you’re going to watch porn tonight, well, spend the 20 minutes and watch this video instead to learn the truth and behind-the-scenes of the porn industry. It is really much more professional than you think.

Creating porn needs a lot of coordination, creativity and involves a hell lot of resources. It is ultimately movie-making after all, and its goal is to create a movie for everyone to watch. Even though it all involves all the f**king and s**king and everything else that everyone else does. The devil is in the detail.

Porn are actually the avant-garde in technology. They’re always the first adopters with the latest technology even since the 1950s. There’re already 3D porn out on the market. Yes, you can now see boobs and butts on 3D with special glasses. I don’t see 3D Disney or Hollywood movies anywhere yet.

Do you know that there is a prestigious awarding ceremony for porn, the porn Oscar event, called the AVN Awards? And check out the award categories that they’re giving out. Like, wow.

This is how seriously people take porn. It is after all, as we see from Current’s documentary about porn, a 3 billion USD industry. You wouldn’t want to lose the market share.

Piracy Is Killing Porn

Well, thanks to technology such as the porn streaming sites and torrent downloads, the big players in porn industry is actually suffering from porn piracy. After all, when you think of it, it does make sense. These people throw a hell lot of budget into making these movies, and if you don’t buy the original or stream by subscribing to their site, they don’t get the return. Then how do they get the money to make more?

Porn stars are expensive to hire, you know. Especially the hot ones.

Well, nevermind those low-budget amateur things you find on amateur sites. If you want quality movies, buy original, see original.

Hey, it doesn’t just apply to Hollywood productions. Porn needs your support too! Well, that sounds kind of wrong, but well, you get the deal. ;)

Okay, I confess, I love my porn. Which young guy doesn’t?

However, what bothers me sometimes is the surprisingly huge amount of masturbating videos on XTube.

Why do people wanna show off their tools so much, and why do people love to watch?

WARNING: Sexually explicit discussion ahead, proceed with caution!

It was only the other day that my friend and I are talking about this. We were discussing about our (ahem) passion with porn, and he said that he’s horny.

So I blurted, “Why don’t you take a video of that and post that on XTube?”

He reflectively defended himself, “Why would I wanna do that?”

I cheekily answered, “Because I wanna watch?”

“And why do you want to watch that?”

Good question, isn’t it? I wonder how many guys (or girls if any) out there would like to watch another person masturbate. And I wonder how many of them actually asks the same question as me.

What’s the fun of watching different guys or girls doing the same action, over and over again for minutes, then watch another person doing all the same thing all over again? With him/herself?

And of course, there’s always the supply to fulfill these demands. Hundreds of JO videos are uploaded on XTube every day. Just open the main page and there’re probably half of them are all self masturbating videos. Not to mention, most of these videos are badly taken with a cheap webcam or phone camera.

Jerk-off on XTube

On the watching side, I guess it is human nature to find it sexually arousing to watch another person indulge in a sexual activity of any kind. ANY kind. Who cares what you do, as long as you can see the working sexual organ, that’s enough. Masturbation is one of them.

On the recording side, masturbating is the easiest sexual activity to record. No whole body exercises involved, you don’t have to worry much about the (ahem) angles (both the camera and the other one), and all you need is a pair of hands. Also, it happens to be the easiest attention seeker. When you’re high, porn surfers will just watch anything posted. And drool over it.

So when it’s easy to take such videos, it isn’t surprising to find a huge amount of them on surge on the net. When people get exposed to it every day, they’ll eventually develop some feelings towards it. A fetish, maybe? Oooh, masturbating vids are so sexy.

Some people seem to take a lot of pride when their jerking videos are being watched a lot. And they actually go great lengths to get more hits, such as working out a perfect body shape to be more deliciously appealing, or going around other fetishes such as leather or furry or bondage or bdsm or dildos and tons of other activities. The hardcore ones share them on networking sites, on forums, on emails, everywhere.

They love being watched. People love watching them. Such mutual relationship, it’s almost Platonic.

Not like I’m encouraging you to post a jerk-off vid of yourself now. But if you do, remember to send me a link so that I can watch too, ok? ;)

So what do you find sexy about masturbation vids? Be honest, do you watch them? :3