Well, its been months since this blog had started, and honestly I didn’t talk much about myself, as much as I wish I do!

To get rid of the anonymity between you and me, I am for once dedicate this post to talk all about me!

Yay, all about Grey! The blabbering bastard that gets high on listening to a guy singing like a girl and talks about sex all the time. Yeesh, what kind of a person is that?

I will not bore you with how many hairstyles I have changed in my life or how many pets I have at home. Instead, I will share with you my interests and thoughts that means a lot to me of who I am.

Well, lets just keep it short, come and learn all about me today!

Warning: Really, really long post ahead!

The Basics First

Grey got a new haircut, like yesterday!

By the time I write this post I’m still 22. In 4 months time I’m going to be 23, and oh, time flies! 23 years gone in my life, and what have I done? Catching up with all those porn probably.

It felt like yesterday that I have just graduated from Confucious Private Secondary School and moved on to KBU International College. I graduated from college in Graphic Design, and now I am working in Piradius Design as a web designer.

Doesn’t show through huh? Yeah I think so too. I’m a designer that talks and craps more than design. ;)

Besides that, I am also a choir singer for around 9 years now, and a crappy piano player for around 7 years. I started late in my teens, I’m not greatly talented, but I still enjoy playing it as a hobby. As I always say, if you start now, when you’re 50 years old you’ve probably played for more than 30 years! Isn’t that an achievement? :D

I love my Chinese and English

My mom thinks that the whole family are bananas who can’t read chinese, so it’s a wise thing to send me to a chinese secondary school. I appreciated that, of course! The Chinese culture is fascinating, 5000 years worth of culture is not something that you can feel in matter of minutes. There are so much Confucianism and Taoism values that I had absorbed and learned to appreciate today.

Many people make the “Confucianism is confusing” joke. Well it’s funny a little, but Confucianism is a very highly respected set of moral values to the Chinese. Go read about it and you will see why, it determines almost 80% of all about Chinese culture today, from values in filial piety to relationships. Mostly everything.

Grey is so desperate he'll eat anything. Really!

Then there’s the English world that I’ve come across in college. Thanks to the banana friends and the English nature of the course, I had to brush up my English language skills like from zero to hero. Well not really hero now neither, but you get what I mean. :P

My banana friends had introduced me to the world of the Western culture. They listened to Rihanna and Lady Gaga, they watched Heroes and Harry Potter, they followed American Idol and So You Think You Can Dance… None, and I mean none of these I have ever come across during my secondary school life. And I love them for doing so. I was a total Taiwan and Hong Kong follower back in secondary school, now I guess I’m a global guy.

An Open Mind

I'm in Second Life! If you're in, look me up, the name is Dadaist Gears. ;)

A mix of both worlds had opened my eyes to many things indeed. And with a mix of a third world it really got me going to have the urge seeing the world even more.

What third world, you say? It’s Second Life. For a time during my college I was so free and I came upon this online 3d world community/game thing. And I was hooked, very hooked. There are so much cultural diversity in there that you can never explore it all. I tried, and I was amazed.

Second Life showed me that the world is not as simple as what the media wants us to see. There are so much other subcultures that we can never know from the TV or radio. There are the furries, the Goreans, the steampunks, the goths, the adult scenes, the nekos. There are so much room for experimental developments, so many groups to look into, so wide the spectrum that I was overwhelmed initially.

Then it came to me that the world is really much larger than what we think it is. There are so much to see, so much to learn, the only way to get through all of it is to embrace the differences.

Perhaps this is why I am so open to talk about just anything, because I have a real high threshold for shock factor and differences.

Classical music, the alternative music today

Whenever I tell people that I like classical music, they will give me the look of detest, “Oh that’s some boring crap!” or the trying-very-hard-to-feel-the-same, “Oh I like classical music too! The violins and what’s that thing again… flute? Yeah, the blowy thing. I like that.”

The thing is that many young people don’t listen to classical music anymore, because it is difficult music. It is harder to relate to compared to those disco beats or Top 40 tunes. It has a much more complicated form and if you’re not used to it, you’re prone to fall asleep because of its relaxing effects.

I like relaxing music. Classical music does that for me, and I love it. They may be difficult to catch at first, but if you spend some time reading about it you will appreciate them much more. After all, classical music had always have the dramatic effect that can bring you so much up and down. Listen to these music here, here and here. Each of those music are written 100 years apart, they still are really good today, aren’t they?

Classical music is evergreen, because they’re the essence of history. They reflect the spirit of their times, and can still reflect the spirit of our times today. We love classical music because of it’s power to bring joy and excitement just about anyone, as long as you open your ears to it. Really, try it. ;)

I Love My Sex

Grey is with Sugar. Well not really a sweet mouth!

In case you haven’t notice by now, I love my sex. I’m very vocal about my porns and I am not afraid to share about sex. I guess one of the reasons why there is that I think that sex is a very human thing, yet most of us are afraid to talk about it due to our Confucianism teachings (see above!).

Sex makes us all happy. And let’s be honest, the word “sex” itself makes you feel curious already. All of us are attracted to sex because of it’s status of being a taboo in our society, it’s like a secret interest that is not so secret anymore.

This blog is made to be an open conversation to be just about anything. I bring up many interesting and sometimes controversial issues so that we can share ideas. And sex is part of it. And I love it. ;)

The Net Is My Life

Without Internet, I will probably rot and die in minutes. I spend almost 15 hours of my time online every day, well partly because of work, but it is pretty much my love and passion.

There are so much to watch on YouTube, so much to share on Facebook, so much to explore on StumbleUpon, and so much to read just every else. Call me addicted if you must, but if addicted is what I am being coined to enrich my life with, I’m really proud and willing to be an addict.

Grey loves his food! Really!!

Oh no, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have a life. I go out with friends regularly, I enjoy a walk at the mall, I enjoy traveling, I enjoy great food at great places, I enjoy dating with my boy. Just anytime other than that, being online is what I will do.

Thats why I love my broadband too. I probably use it to the max. Without it, I’ll probably sleep till it’s there.

And online is where you can find me!

Grey trying to act cute. Fail!

If what I have written here is not enough for you to feed your curiousity, well you can always catch me on the Net!

My net nickname is Conancat, it’s a mixture of my love for both Detective Conan and cats back in my secondary school days. Apparently it had become so catchy that I decided to keep it forever. ;)

So thats why you will find that my Facebook, Twitter and Plurk all goes by the name of Conancat.

Even my MSN has conancat on it! Like, conan_cat87@hotmail.com!

So does my Gmail, conancat@gmail.com, and of course the new Google Wave, conancat@googlewave.com.

So hey, lets not be strangers, shall we? :) Let’s talk, like, really talk!

Add me anywhere above, or even better, everywhere above, and buzz me to drop me a tell me more about you! :D

Of course, that doesn’t mean you should save the comments for yourself neither. Drop a comment below, and tell me what you think about me! :)

There’s always some magic about theater plays that you can never catch in the movies.

Perhaps it’s the intimacy of the stage, that you feel so close to the actors and you can relate to them so deeply as the play progresses.

Perhaps it’s the script and plot, that it is so concise to portray a story with the bare minimum, each dialogue is so well written that you get absorbed without the need for close-up cameras.

Perhaps it’s the environment and atmosphere, where the lighting and music are carefully cued and arranged that it makes you feel much deeper than watching people on screen.

Whatever it is, I’m a sucker for theater plays lately, and The Swimming Instructor is sucking me deeper into the whirl of theater arts.

It has everything, great actors, great script, carefully chosen yet minimal props made this intimate play at KLpac’s Pentas 2 a marvelous success.

Hours had passed since the end of the show, and I’m still lingering on each scene, trying to catch the layers of plots and morals embedded in every moment.

The Swimming Instructor

90 Minutes Of Sexuality Crisis

It was stated very clearly at the door notice, that this play is ADULT THEMED lasting 90 minutes without break.

And they really mean it. The 90 minutes flowed seamlessly without any breaks, intervening between our three heroes and heroine on the topics of love, friendship, sex and sexuality. The play is written by Desmond Sim, and he’s a genius to mash everything together into an intimate yet humorous play that explores the values mentioned with a very human touch.

He is a swimming instructor that is an object of affection by many, including this guy and this girl. He is floating in a pool of his past, torn apart and confused by a surprise, a change, a bad decision. And he tries to find an answer to stop floating in the past.

She is an aggressive rich little princess that wants things her way. She is loud and forward, actively pushing and making chances to get near to the swimming instructor that once helped her in the past. She does everything to get him. She wants him oh so badly.

He is a smart and intelligent guy that follows plans and makes decisions systematically. When it comes to love when systems and intelligence doesn’t work, he’s afraid to make a move. He sits and waits, and lets fate decide if the chance will ever fall on him.

Yes, there are homosexual elements involved. Gays, start marching! :P

The Swimming Instructor

Chances And Decisions

“Even if there is one chance…One chance that you can love, you must take it. Because the little chances we waste can change our whole life” -Guan, The Swimming Instructor, taken from Dustyhawk

Some people pray very hard and wait for chances to come on them. Some people fight very hard to get the chances. Some people did not expect the chances to come at all.

But what would you do when you have a chance, and how do you know if you’ve made the right decision?

As humans, we are prone to making bad decisions. And by chance, by vigor or by fate we will eventually be presented with crossroads that we’ll have to pick a route that will change everything. It’s devastating to be forced to make a big decision in a short spur of time, or even in split seconds.

You will never know if you’ve picked the right way, but one thing for sure, if you don’t grab the chances in your hands the moment it falls, the chances are you will regret it later.

What, do you expect to read more about the story here?

Well, fat chance! Go watch the show and find out yourself, hey, there are still 2 more shows coming up, you can still make time to catch them!

The Swimming Instructor
12 December 2009 (Sat) 8.00pm,
13 December 2009 (Sun) 3.00pm
RM38, free seating @ Pentas 2, KLpac

Find out more about the show at the Facebook Event Page here, or read about it directly from one of the actors himself, Niki Cheong over here and here!

If you’re into theater arts, if you love a good show, if you like some sexual innuendos, if you like to see a half-naked hunk on stage, if you love a lot of good laughs… Too many reasons to get your ass there!

Go and be enlightened, like me! :D

P/s: If you really want some spoilers on the plot, here’s the place to go! You’ve been warned! ;)

Every group in the world has their own unique culture and languages. The hip-hoppers have their “wassup homie!”, the bimbos have their “oh-my-gawds!” and of course, the gays have their own language too.

These jargons are widely understood within the culture group, and is usually alien to everyone else. If you’re following the title of this post, you must be wondering what does top and bottom mean to the gays.

Oh yes, it’s a very important thing for the gays indeed! In fact, it’s the first 2 words that all gays must learn, and it’s a must-ask question when you first know a new gay friend around!

Are you curious now? For the non-gays, here’s a chance to feed your curiosity, read more to find out!

For the gays, you must be smirking by now knowing what I’m going to talk about. Don’t worry guys, I’m not only going to talk about sex. Though that will be part of the explaination. There’s a lot more to being a top or bottom!

For homophobes, you’re welcome to have a read and hopefully this will change your mind about gays! But bear in mind that flame comments will be deleted straight away. ;)

Gay Couple On Bed

Image by MisterRiddles on Flickr

A Literal Explaination

The most direct explanation of a Top or Bottom is the role and position of a gay while on bed with another gay. Let’s just picture a heterosexual couple, a guy and a girl on bed. The easiest and most blunt way to say this out is, when a guy f**ks the girl the most favorable position is the guy being on top, while the girl being at the bottom.

I’m not talking about cowgirl or reverse cowgirl positions here. Just normally speaking, the guy f**ks the girl on top and the girl is being f**ked at the bottom.

So you have it. On sexual role saying, a top is a gay who is the f**ker, while a bottom is a gay who is the f**kee. Nuff said?

But… But why?? The Pleasure of Anal Sex

In case you don’t know by now, gays take it up the ass when they are having sex. Physically speaking it is possible for all men to experience a certain sensation more than pain when something penetrates the anus because there’s a special thing called the prostate in the men’s anus, which when massaged will give a very special feeling to men.

Well, for some men the feeling is very pleasurable and desirable, and it can make them very sexually aroused. It’s an electrifying feeling that makes them feel very good. On the other hand, some men dislike the electrifying feeling. It’s a matter of personal preference.

So in order to compromise and satisfy the sexual needs of both parties, gay couples usually consist of a top and a bottom. One enjoys f**king, one enjoys being f**ked. Isn’t that a mutual relationship satisfied?

If you’re wondering, women hate anal sex because they don’t have a prostate to make them feel good. Stop pestering your girlfriend about it. And of course, some heterosexual men enjoys the feeling of anal sex too. Thus the strap-on dildo is invented.

But is it all just about sex? Or no?

The answer is, no. There is more to the analogy of top and bottom than just bed positions. Lets picture this in scenarios comparing to heterosexual couples in a relationship.

Lets talk about a guy and girl on a date. Usually we will assume that the guy will take on the more dominant role in a relationship, taking care of the girl in all possible ways and the girl is the more submissive one, taking in all the love and potentially be bitch at times for no reason. Oops, did I just say something wrong?

Somehow the laws of nature teaches us that opposites attract. When there’s the Yin (passive energy), there must be the Yang (active energy). So when these two gets together, it’s easier to click than anything else. And then, then social convention says that the guys are the Yang and the girls are the Yin.

So if a guy=top and girl=bottom, then the dominant guy in a gay relationship is the top and the submissive guy in the relationship is the bottom.

What If The Top Doesn’t Like F**king?

Usually we assume that the top in a relationship is the more active guy, thus he is the top on bed too loving to f**k just like any guy, and the bottom in the relationship is the more passive guy and loves to be f**ked just like any other girl.

But then, what if the active guy that loves to take care of his partner doesn’t like to f**k but instead love to take it up in the ass, while the more passive guy doesn’t like to take it up in the ass?

The solution is fairly easy. We can conclude that this guy is a top that is a bottom on bed, and that guy is a bottom that is a top on bed. Fairly easy equation right?

So can we conclude that the gay community easily is split to two groups, the tops and the bottoms? Well, hardly!

Top and bottom is only a start!

As each of us humans are different, we do have our own personal preferences too. Forget about social conventions! Just like any other guy out there, while some guys love to be on the steering wheel in the relationship, when met with the right girl they’re willing to be submissive too. And just like any other girl out there, sometimes some girls prefer to be in charge!

So to solve this grey area and not wanting to be classified as being a top or bottom, the gays invented a new class for the gays: versatile.

Versatile gays can swing both ways, they can be hard and soft, yin and yang, top or bottom. They go along with any other gays, can f**k or be f**ked depending on their partner. Oops, I’ve made it sound sexual again!

Some people are pure versatiles as they love both sides equally, while some people are versatile tops or versatile bottoms, meaning they prefer the certain role, but are willing to switch when met with the right guy. Cool right! That’s the sweetness of gay relationships. <3

What you’ve learned today

So today, you’ve learned about the top, bottom and versatile roles in the gay community. So next time when you see a gay, you can tell,

“Oh he’s a top!”
“Oh he’s a bottom!”
“Hmm, I can’t really tell… Maybe he’s a versatile!”

But oh well! Looks can be deceiving. ;)

So what’s your role, hmm? :P

“Being gay” is a joke. Having a gay friend is fun.

Really being a gay, now that’s real fun.

No kidding. There’s a whole YouTube series dedicated to how fun being gay really is. Bring on the gay, babeh!

gay adj
1. Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of the same sex.
2. Showing or characterized by cheerfulness and lighthearted excitement; merry.
3. Bright or lively, especially in color: a gay, sunny room.
4. Given to social pleasures.
5. Dissolute; licentious.

Well, the dictionary definition says it even. So being gay must be of real excitement, real cheerfulness, real happy, real gay, isn’t it?

Really, when you make fun of someone being gay, it’s real fun for you as you laugh at their gayness. But when you find out one of your friends being a real gay, there’s where the real fun begins.

Gays will always cheer up even the most depressed.

Gays will gay up even the most boring conversations.

Gays can have the most exquisite, refined, flamboyant or alternative tastes in everything that you can admire or laugh about. And they’re proud of it.

Gays can turn a straight to be gay. Ouch, that isn’t really a fun, is it?

Questionably Gay?

Seriously, I find gay life is fun. The ladies are more open to joke around with the gays, while the lads while might seem reluctant at first, still thinks of you with another guy, sans the man-to-man-naughty-funs or discussion about cars and football, plus the advice seeking in fashion and love life.

It’s not as bad as you think, really. As long as the gay and friends respects limits and understand each other mutually, that’s all that is needed for a happy gay life.

After all, gays can really be the best friends you’ll ever have!