First of all, I have to apologize for my lack of updates and I have been slacking off at reading your blogs. Busy with work and life, my bad at that!! Sorry!

This morning I have heard from the radio station, there was this community message thing done by OneFM from time to time to promote different human values. This time it’s about trust.

The setting was pretty typical, a girl gives her friend something to do, and asks for the progress. The friend reassures that everything is in control, and the girl starts to worry that the details are not done well enough, things are that she must do everything right or they might lose the job and this and that.

The friend listens to her worries for a while and when she couldn’t take it, she interrupts, “You’ve passed the job to me, then you should trust me to do the job well!”

Exactly. Have you ever ask yourself, how much do you trust your friends, family or colleagues, and do you trust them enough?

Image @Denise Lamby on Flickr

I’m sure that a lot of us work in a team or together with other people a lot of times. Unless you’re a lone ranger then you might not have to deal with anyone else, but then there must be some time that you have to cooperate and work with others to get some things done.

It may be that project you want to pitch for the company, that daily admin job of the office, that wedding you’re going to organize, that Chinese New Year chores you want to start working on with your family, or that holiday trip you’re planning with your friends.

Humans are social animals. We can only get so much done by ourselves, that’s why we need the help of others. And when we need the help of others, we have to trust them to be able to help us.

Lack of confidence is annoying

There’s nothing more annoying than asking help from someone then not trust them enough to do the job. Well it doesn’t matter if you are forced to be in a team or if you asked them for help, but as long as you’re working together, you should trust them.

Because most of the time they know what they’re doing before even taking on the task. This shows that they’re confident to do the job, so why are you not confident in them?

If they’re professionals, you should trust them even more because they know what to do better than you.

If they’re just as clueless as you, you should trust them to be able to make good enough decisions.

If they’re not as competent as you, you should trust them to make some progress and guide them along the way, not doubting and dismissing their thoughts and actions.

Relationships are built on trust

Of course, being overly confident and trusting too much can sometimes lead to disappointment. But really, if you don’t give at least a minimum standard of trust and be an ass trying too hard to get things right your way, you will end up hurting the job and the relationship more than being any real help.

Relationships build on trust. It’s only through trusting someone that we be open to each other and form a great relationship, to be great friends or great family or great colleagues. To gain trust you need to prove yourself to be trustworthy, but you have to do the most basic thing first too.

Learn to trust. :)

Do you trust your friends and family enough? Or are you one of the worry-warts that think too much? ;)

My Dad loves Facebook, and he plays it everyday!

My Dad loves Facebook, and I wonder if it’s a good thing or no?

My Dad Loves Facebook

My Dad loves Facebook, and he started to play Facebook since 3 months ago!

My Dad loves Facebook, and he is 61!

My Dad loves Facebook, and he loves to share his love for Almond, my younger brother!

My Dad Loves Almond

My Dad loves Facebook, and he has like 150 friends!

My Dad's Facebook Friends

My Dad's Doggie Facebook Friends

My Dad loves Facebook, and all his friends are… Poodles and doggies? @.o”"~!

My Dad loves Facebook, and he is very active!

My Dad loves Facebook, and he plays Chinese games and makes Chinese friends… Even though he doesn’t know how to read or write Chinese!

My Dad's Facebook Activities

My Dad Loves Youtube

My Dad loves Facebook, and he loves YouTube to the max too!

My Dad loves Facebook, and he loves the quizzes!

My Dad Loves Facebook Quizzes

My Dad loves Facebook, and the quizzes tell what a great Dad he is :)

My Dad loves Facebook, and being a great Dad he is, he loves to comment on MY Facebook!

My Dad Loves Commenting on me on Facebook

My Dad Loves Commenting on me on Facebook

P/s: MAS = Mana Ada System

My Dad Comments on Me

My Dad Loves Facebook, and he’s worried about Vietnamese Rose VD on me.

My Dad messages me on Facebook

My Dad loves Facebook, and he warns me to don’t simply shoot… Uhhh… A water-gun maybe?

My Dad loves Facebook, and oh I love him too.

But still… To be honest…

Sometimes I still wish he will stay out of my Facebook!

When was the last time you had lunch with your family?

Yeah, I couldn’t remember neither. Weeks, or even months?

Thats why it can be quite a memorable occasion, no?

You know, we youngsters have a life of our own. From secondary school to college to now, work, our time has always been occupied with various activities here and there. Even weekends, most of the time, lunchtimes will most probably mean being out with friends or hiding in the room with some bread and biscuits facing YouTube or Facebook or that goddamn assignment.

Being an unfilial-piety son I am, I had always slept until 12 on Saturdays. Today, I woke up early. Like 10.30am, early. Then my brother came in and asked if I wanted to go out for lunch with them.

I was debating with myself, to have another bread and biscuits lunch with YouTube and Facebook, or to go out for the first time in months with my family for lunch, out.

Very tough decision. YouTube and CollegeHumor is very tempting.

I chose the latter.

And so I embarked on a 2-hours journey, for lunch.

Somewhere at the distant suburbs, 30mins drive from here, from Sri Petaling to Dengkil, near Cyberjaya. Just for a bowl of noodles.

Almond trying to sleep

My younger brother (a.k.a Almond the poodle) was trying to sleep all the way, while I sat at the window, watching my parents camwhore occasionally with the dog as the dog unwillingly obliged. My brother was at the driver’s seat on auto-drive mode, I’m guessing his mind was drifting away as the surrouding scenery of repeating tropical plants flew pass the window.

And there we were, for the bowl of noodles. With lots of fried pig fat and vinegar. And a glass of cincau ais.

Very simple, isn’t it? Not much words were exchanged during the outing, but there was something more that is shared mutually in midst of silence.

Family. For years you have sticked together, and you will for many years more. However changing the surrounding will be, however simple the food and drink, however dull things might seem, that is actually the beauty of it.

Perhaps for once, we should take some time off our busy daily schedule and have lunch with your family. Perhaps you might find out things you’ve never noticed before.

Such as the white hairs that are budding on my mom’s scalp. Makes me remember the days when I was young and I plucked them for her. Oh, the days.