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The Many Benefits of Owning a Condo

The Many Benefits of Owning a Condo
Are you planning to get a condo unit of your own? Are you having doubts? Well, you shouldn’t. Getting a condo could probably one of the best and the smartest decision you could ever make. If you are planning on getting your own condo unit, there sure are a lot of reasons why it’s a smart thing to do. The possibilities, the many benefits you could get are endless. Because of this, condo units are in high demand right now.
Here are some of the many benefits you could get:
* Less Maintenance
Probably one of the many benefits of living in a condo is that other people do the maintenance for you. They cut the grass, maintain the grounds, fix the roof, and you don’t have to worry about finding someone to replace the siding. If you’re a first-time homeowner, in poor health, busy with work, like to travel, or you just don’t want to deal with all those chores, this is a major benefit. It makes things less stressful and less hassle than it would have been if you chose to get a place of your own.
Condos can also be a good option if you want to age in place because you have close neighbors, experienced maintenance staff to take care of big repairs, and plenty of activities to keep you engaged with your community.
* Security
Many condos offer gated or locked entries, doorkeepers, or even security professionals for residents. If you live alone or security is a concern for you, this can be reassuring because it might reduce the risk of home break-ins. With the security they provide, you don’t have to worry about anything. In addition, you live in close proximity to many other people, which means that in an emergency, you’ll have plenty of people to turn to for help.
* Amenities
Want a pool? Or a fitness centre? Or maybe a Wednesday game nights at the community clubhouse? Many condo communities offer residents amenities that are out of reach for the average homeowner.
These amenities can also make it much easier to get to know your neighbours. If you live alone or love to socialize, this can be a great perk.
* Affordability
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Condominiums are often priced lower than single-family homes. The average selling price for a single-family home hovered around $260,000(THB 7865000.00. Condos typically have a lower average selling price – around $248,200(THB 7508050). Depending on the region and the community, the asking price can be dramatically lower than a single-family home. So, if you want to dive into homeownership on you’re on a tighter budget, a condo can be a great first step.


* Appreciation
In years past, condos typically appreciated at a slower rate than single-family homes because single-family homes are more appealing to more people. More importantly, you get land when you buy a home, and land is a huge factor in appreciation.
* Proximity to City Life
Many condos are located close to vibrant downtown areas, which is appealing for many reasons.
First, some people want to be able to walk, commute by bike, or take public transportation to their job because they’re sick of spending an hour a day or more sitting in rush hour traffic. Living close to your job can save you thousands of dollars each year in fuel and car maintenance costs.
Living near a thriving downtown also makes it easy to visit new restaurants, go shopping, and check out the live shows. If you can walk or take public transit, you’ll likely find that you get more exercise because it’s easier to get out and about. Also, condos located in prime neighbourhoods might increase in value faster than condos in the suburbs, which can make them a worthy investment.
There sure are so many benefits you could get from getting a condo unit or a suite from Verve Suites. Once you experience what it is like living in this place, you’d surely be happy with you choice of acquiring slot. So what are you still waiting for? Buy property verve suites now! Enjoy the many benefits you could get from them. You’ll surely have an amazing life in this area. Guaranteed, you will not regret it. Go now before it’s too late.

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Different Internships in Malaysia

Different Kinds of Internships in Malaysia

Malaysia is a unique and vibrant country holding a cocktail of cultures, and is home to the famous Petronas Twin Towers. Aside from its impressive capital city, the overall infrastructure of Malaysia is one of the best in Asia and is continuously developing. Rapidly growing as a major Asian business hub, an internship in Malaysia is an ideal opportunity to gain international working experience. The best platform to look for internships is Kerija.

An international Internship Malaysia will look impressive on your CV when applying to companies in the future. Employers will recognize that the intern are much more diverse than other candidates by seeing that they went out of your comfort zone by interning in a foreign country. Going abroad to pursue a Malaysia internship will not only increase your skills and knowledge but also your professional network by meeting industry professionals.

Here are the 4 internships offered in Malaysia:

1. Engineering


When one thinks about Engineering, Asia is probably not the first destination that comes to mind. However, Asia not only produces a lot of parts used in various fields of engineering but also has a booming industry with potential for more growth. Engineering and construction have soared side-by-side with economic growth, making Asia a prime location to further your career in this industry.

Students, graduates or young professionals who have chosen a career in engineering can look forward to very good job prospects, as engineering is a broad field that plays an important role in many sectors of society. What one can bear in mind though, especially when choosing an area of specialization, is that certain engineering disciplines provide more opportunities than others today.

Due to the scale of modern manufacturing and its requirements for peak efficiency, industrial engineering happens to be one of the higher-demand engineering disciplines. This is not surprising as industrial engineers determine the fastest and most efficient ways for factories to use and manage their equipment, procedures and employees.
Electrical engineering is yet another field of engineering, out of several others, with brighter job prospects. This could be because it incorporates several other equally important engineering disciplines, such as electronics engineering.

Electronics is, of course, a significant part of modern life; electronics engineers even work on telecommunications and data communications equipment which are widely used today. And so the demand for engineers in the electrical/electronic field is projected to be even higher in the future.

Because they are primarily tasked with designing, constructing and maintaining most of the vital physical and digital infrastructure on which the world runs, and also maintaining the environment, civil engineers are also in high demand today, and young professionals in the field can expect a bright future.

2. Business Development

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Business development has most potential where there are room and potential for growth. Business is the fastest-growing economic region in the world. Different businesses are seeing the large potential in the Asian market and moving to establish a foothold here. Business is booming like never before. This makes Asia an ideal environment to gain invaluable experience.


Businesses are always looking for ways to acquire new customers while selling additional products and services to existing ones. In fact, they cannot possibly thrive or survive without doing so.


Business development executives serve as a point of execution in the markets business’s target, and they are also a major source of vital information as regards market conditions and dynamics.


On the other hand, they use their skills to sell a business’s ideas, products and services to its target market. If a business were a vehicle, then business development personnel would be the tires.


For these reasons and more, the role of a business developer is a very crucial one in any business, and experienced business developers are always in very high demand across different industries and in most job sectors, whether it’s business-to-business (B2B), or business-to-customer (B2C).

3. Information Technology

The information technology industry is forever growing and is dictating how we live in today’s modern world. For this reason, information technology internships in Asia are wide open, due to the high demand in the industry.


Interning in the IT sector in Asia will introduce you to a varied range of work areas including app and website development, database design, software engineering, and among others. You will also get to learn different aspects of the Asian culture as well as develop an international working experience that you can put on your resume.

4. Non-government organizations

An international Non-Profit internship in Asia is one of the most satisfying opportunities one can have. It takes effort and motivation, but the reward one can get in return is of a much higher value. The happiness one can get from helping others is defined by Aristotle as “Beatitudo,” this is the happiness that comes from seeing other people being happy and helping other people.

Watch this video on an intern’s experience in an NGO:


There are a lot of different NGOs in Asia, varying from the improvement of less fortunate women and children to helping the improvement of the environment. There is always a sector in the NGO industry which you can find interesting and appealing to be a part of.

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Make A Business About Liver Supplements

Make A Business About Liver Supplements


Are you planning to start a business?

If you are, then you must make sure that you have a lot of time and patience since it does not only need money. Starting a business is never easy, you have to make sure that you have an edge or an upper hand compared to others. Since it is your first time starting a business in your life, make sure that the product you are going to sell is in high demand.


In addition to that, it would be best if you are going to have a partner or an assistant who already have an experience on how to run a business. Remember, you can’t just run a business by reading a book or watching business videos, you have to actually experience it.
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Going back, since we are all talking about a popular product, why don’t you try selling liver supplements? Don’t you know that a lot of people are now buying liver supplements? By buying liver supplements, it is guaranteed that your liver will be in a good shape or in other words, your liver will be healthy. If it is the price you are worried about, you don’t have to because it is affordable. But, even though it is affordable, it doesn’t mean that it does not work well. Remedy for Hepatitis malaysia who specialized in the liver have already approved it. So, don’t think twice and sell liver supplements now.

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Beautiful Bali: Garuda Wisnu Kencana

This is how $270 million and 4000 tons of brass and copper will look like.

Envisioned to be much, much taller than our current Statue of Liberty which is 151 feet, Garuda Wisnu Kencana, when completed will stand at 479 feet when it is completed, sitting on the hill of Bukit, Bali, Indonesia.

Seriously, when I stared at Garuda Wisnu Kencana I couldn’t help but think, what the hell is Malaysia doing?

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Really, when you see a project this big you can’t help gasp in awe. This is something that we thought that is what the crazy people of Ancient Egypt or Greece will ever dream up of doing. But our neighbor Indonesia is already halfway through creating another wonder of the world.

Just look at the size of that big bird!

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

In case you’re wondering, Wisnu, otherwise known as Vishnu in India, is the Hindu god of preservation, the god of all gods. And Garuda is Vishnu’s divine vehicle, the big protector of choice.

Well, I just love to refer Him as the Big Bird.

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Bali is highly influenced by Hinduism since the 11th century, thus you can see exquisite levels of crafts and culture lingering on in our life even after decades. And today Hinduism still make up more than 80% of the religious devotees in Bali. Well, save the tourists, of course.

Seriously, Garuda Wisnu Kencana is huge. Really, really huge. If they need to separate the head/torso, the hands and the Big Bird to put them at three different places because it’s too huge to put them together, you know how huge it is.

Alright, maybe not. Let me show you the hugeness of it. 479 feet is like 1/3rd of the height of our proud Petronas Towers (KLCC).

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

And what about the $270 million? Well half of it goes to completing the statue, the other half goes to creating a shopping mall around it.

According to my reliable sources apparently what they’re going to do with the empty spaces around is to create a giant shopping mall which is projected to attract 10,000 visitors a day.

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

But then, apparently they ran out of cash to do it now. 😡 So yeah, it’s still half completed, lol.

Anyway, this is how the Garuda Wisnu Kencana will look like when it is done, this is a miniature version of it that they did.

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Of course, I’m sure they will continue the work very soon. The tour guide speaks of the place with great passion and hope, and he’s really proud of this creation of their country. I’m sure Bali won’t disappoint them.

You just ought to admire their effort, no? I would like to share a quote I have heard,

“When you wake up in the morning,you have two choices, to sleep and continue to dream or to wake up and chase them.”

Obviously, they did. 😉

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

Garuda Wisnu Kencana, Bali, Indonesia

And ooo, cute monster thingy! Let’s camwhore!

Camwhore with cute monster thingy at GWK, Bali, Indonesia

Camwhore with cute monster thingy at GWK, Bali, Indonesia…

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Beautiful Bali: Guess The Foodies and Win The Dickies!

Grey eating the Bali dick keychain

Grey eating the Bali dick keychain

😡

Anyway, the five Indonesian words that you’re going to guess are:

Bebek

Cumi-cumi

Kepiting

Ayam Malam

Bebek Kotor

Well here’s some hints that I can make… They are all food (well, technically one isn’t exactly a food :x), and they call him Donald Bebek.

End Date: 10th April 2010, enough time for you to ask your kakaks or makciks or any Ahmads you have in your life xD

So just drop your comments here, if you got the most rights I will give you, or if you’re too far away, I’ll mail to you the cute lil dickie keychain! 😀

Hey they’re damn cute!

Don’t forget to ask your friends to join in the fun too!…

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Beautiful Bali: Dicks oh Dicks, Small, Big and HUGE

In case you’re wondering, Bali is heavily influenced by Hinduism since the 10th century. Lord Shiva is part of Hinduism.

The Bali Dick Keychains

The Bali Dick Keychains

Wooden Bali Dick Carvings

Wooden Bali Dick Carvings

Bali Dick Bottle Openers

Bali Dick Bottle Openers

Hodder M. Westropp wrote this in a 1870 article when studying [block]3[/block]around the world:

“Three phases in the representation of the phallus should be distinguished–first, when it was the object of reverence and religious worship; secondly, when it was used as a protecting power against evil influences of various kinds, and as a charm or amulet against envy and the evil eye… thirdly, when it was the result of mere licentiousness and dissolute morals.”

Hmm, so the dick can be a charm or amulet against envy and all the evil eye? So I guess that explains why guys with bigger dicks have bigger ego. Ahem.

The Bali Dick Keychains

The Bali Dick Keychains

It is also said that by worshiping the phallus you can have better reproductive and regenerative powers. Read: better sex life.

Well anyway, spiritual or not, it is kind of peculiar when you see a country that is famous for its traditionalism and spirituality to have so many artifacts of the male reproductive organ around. Perhaps it’s just us that make so much of a taboo out of sex. The Balinese sees sex as just a natural passage of life, and children from the young age are already accustomed to being open about sex and sexuality, with their peers and family.

So sometimes we have to wonder, who are the peculiar ones, them or us?

Yee and the Bali Dick Keychains

Yee and the Bali Dick Keychains

Aki and the Giant Bali Dick Sculpture

Aki and the Giant Bali Dick Sculpture

Culture shock, hmm. But ooh, the girls go gaga when they see dicks everywhere. You can’t blame them, can you?

Same to the gays as well. 0:)

Grey, Nick and the Bali Dick Keychains

Grey, Nick and the Bali Dick Keychains

Grey and The Giant Dick Sculpture in Bali!

Grey and The Giant Dick Sculpture in Bali!

And I’d bet the dildo whores will be happy to see one this big too. It’s like up to my knee height. Like just barely shorter than 1 meter. I can see the size queens drooling from miles away already. Yes you. Wipe em off.

Wooden Bali Dick Carvings

Wooden Bali Dick Carvings

So who wants a Bali dick?…

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Grey’s Bleaching Adventure

Grey is finally… proudly GREY!

Yep, it’s my childhood dream to be GREY, maybe I’ve been playing too much of Final Fantasy and I adore Sephiroth too much. But woot, GREY is COOL!

Now let’s just hope it won’t all fall off too soon. 😛

This is a narcissistic brainless post unlike my previous artsy-fartsy stuffs, so if you don’t mind to bear with my ramblings, read on! 😛

Grey Before Bleaching

Grey before the hair makeover

Grey before the hair make over

Well actually, before my latest bleaching feat I already bleached my hair before, like well, a month ago before Chinese New Year, lol. At first I bleached then I tried to dye it grey too, but it failed as apparently i didn’t bleach light enough, the yellow pigment mixed with the blueish-grey dye made my hair turn out being greenish.

And it all came out within 3 days. Yep, 3 days, and the dye went off. Argh!

So I became the blondie for a month now. Well I wouldn’t mind acting dumb in the meantime, it’s fun! 😉

Anyway, I asked my hair stylist Elson Tang after, and he said that I wasn’t using the proper shampoo to wash my hair after dyeing. Apparently after dyeing your hair with different colors you need to wash them with the color retaining shampoos , or else your colors will fall off pretty quickly. There are color retaining shampoos for almost all colors, in my case I have to use the silver color retaining shampoo.

So aight, this time, I’m determined to do two things:

To go totally GREY, and to keep it there!

And off with BLEACH!

Grey's Bleaching Adventure: Bleaching the hair

Grey’s Bleaching Adventure: Bleaching the hair

This is how you’ll look like when you have a pile of bleach stuck on your hair for 3 hours. Yep, I sat there for three hours bleaching my hair, trying to get the result I want.

At first I thought of bleaching the whole head as well, but that will kill all of my hair, and while that looks pretty it’s actually pretty much an ass to maintain. So I opted for bleaching my fringes, as you can see here.

It doesn’t look pretty, and it hurts. Though it doesn’t hurt like hell, it hurts annoyingly on your scalp leaving you squirming on your seat thinking when will it be over. Yep, it’s chemicals after all, what do you expect?

Grey's Bleaching Adventure: Done Bleaching

Grey’s Bleaching Adventure: Done Bleaching

So this is how my hair looks like after bleaching. The shampoo girl commented, “it’s like meehoon”. 😡

Yep, it’s that soft and easy to break. Bleaching your hair to total white kills all pigments and minerals inside the hair until they are dead, totally dead. The whiter you bleach, the more you’re bringing it to death.

First time in my life I bleached white. Bye-bye healthy hair, I will see you in a year.

Grey's Bleaching Adventure: Dyeing the hair color

Grey’s Bleaching Adventure: Dyeing the hair color

You didn’t really think that I will just go around with that super golden hair and white hair, would ya?

My goal is GREY, yeah, GREY. I wanna be well, GREY!

So we went on to put that GREY dye onto my hair. The technically correct term for it is actually silver, but well, it sounds cooler as GREY. (Actually, silver sounds cooler but don’t mind me :X)

And this is how you looks like when you’re bored on the forth hour already trying to figure out something to do. I brought my PSP and I played it till battery ran out. Forgot to charge em the previous day, lulz.

Grey's Bleaching Adventure: Done dyeing!

Grey’s Bleaching Adventure: Done dyeing!

And here I am, done dyeing my GREY hair! The golden hair part now appear greenish as silver/grey is actually blue pigments, and added with the golden yellow it appears green. But on the white bleached hair, it appears as GREY!

And yeah, GREY is cool!

The End Product!

Grey's Bleaching Adventure: The End Product!

Grey’s Bleaching Adventure: The End Product!

Okay, so it may appear blueish and all, but really, it’s really GREY! Or silver. Or ungh, I don’t know what to call it. :X

But anyhow, I’m happy with my hair now. Even though I have to deal with hardcore hair tangles, and the bleached hair takes forever to dry. The normal hair takes like half an hour max to dry, while the bleached part takes an hour plus. Ouch. Not to mention they fall off pretty easily too. :X

But ungh, for my childhood dream — GREY hair, I will deal with it!! Wahahaha!

And thank you for sitting through this endless stream of babbles! I’ll give you some fallen grey hair as a reward… Any takers?…

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I’ll Redesign Your Blog… Starting From RM100

Yep, I will redesign your blog, starting from head to toe, a total change. With a small price of kindness, starting from RM100.

And each cent of that will go to charity.

This is my offer to the Twestival event, an annual global charity event held on March 25th to raise funds for a life charity body. This year, the charity body that is going to benefit is Concern Worldwide, a non-profit organization dedicated to help people in poverty through education programmes across Africa, Asia and the Carribean.

Twestival KL last year was a big hit, and this year I’m sure even more people is going to take part!

The bid for my services of complete blog redesign starts from RM100. Each single cent of that goes to Concern Worldwide. If you think that my services worth more than that, and our friends and children could have deserve more than what you get, start bidding for your best price! 😀

Twestival Kuala Lumpur Poster

Twestival Kuala Lumpur Poster

How It Works

Twestival is all about raising funds by bidding on services or items offered by other users through Twitter. You can bid on an offer made by another user, pay that amount, if you’re the highest bidder you get that offer, and the money goes to the charity.

What, you don’t have a Twitter account yet? What are you waiting for, go get one!

If you already have an account, you can already start bidding on the various services that are being offered by numerous other Twitter veterans! Here’s how:

To bid for a service/item

1. Visit the Twestival KL Wikispaces Page to see what services or items are up for grabs.

2. Bid for items by tweeting:

[Bid number – associated with the service/item you want] [Your bid amount] #twestklbid
(e.g. “[005 @aprilyim pole dance RM100 #twestklbid]

Note: We will scan the tag for bids everyday and edit them into the Wiki. The amount by the highest bidder will be updated in the Wiki.

3. On March 25, we will open all auctions from the last online bid, and all those present will have the opportunity to outbid the highest bidder from online. If you are unable to attend, but still want to bid for an item/service, please make a bid and drop us another Tweet using the #twestklbid informing us. We will be in touch.

Yep, that’s it! And if you’re curious about what kind of things or services people are offering now and the starting bid prices, here’s a glimpse:

[002] @nikicheong Guest Tweet for you (5 Tweets) — RM 50
[005] @aprilyim — My Pole Dance –RM 50
[006] @dustyhawk –Three IDE Harddrive 120gb,80gb,320gb +1external cove — RM 100
[008] @azrinarizz – A 1 hour street Photoshoot(KL area): Shoot+1DVD copy of shoot — RM 50
[012] @joshlim — One night of clubbing with Josh & hot bloggers — RM 100

There are a huge range of other things up for bids too, so be sure to check out the Twestival KL Wikispaces Page! If you pay attention, those are some huge names around. And yep, they’re joining the cause too!

What About My Offer??

Well, to put it simply, if you get my bid, here’s what you’ll get:

  • A custom designed blog template  for your blog tailored to you: for your personality, your topic, your readers, your market, your ideas.
  • In Photoshop format, so that you can edit and change things later on if you wish,
  • In HTML/CSS/Javascript. In Blogger or WordPress or any blog platform of your choice. Yes, I will code that design to be your blog template unique to you. So for God’s sake, don’t sell it! 😛
  • Advices and a lil bit of training on blog housekeeping to make your blog accessible, user friendly and well, nice. 🙂

And the T&Cs:

  1. No commercial or corporate blogs. Only for personal blogs.
  2. Project lasts for 3 weeks. I will try my best to finish up within the period, so please work with me, will you? 🙂
  3. Communications will be made through email, Skype, any IM services, or if you’re in the KL/PJ area, we can come out for yum-cha sessions. 😀
  4. Blogs of any genre welcome. Food porn blogs encouraged. Porn blogs… uhh, we’ll have to see about that.

If you’re wondering, I have just started working in the web design industry since last year, and falling in love with it day by day. Just a matter of trivia, I hated web design back in my college days. I got my first job as a web designer in this web design agency, and well, I’m still on my first job. 😛

Why so cheap, you ask? Firstly, I take this as an opportunity to do some charity work, to practice my skills a bit as well as to expand my portfolio. Secondly, I think that a mere small part of modification to a blog such as just the header or maybe a few buttons doesn’t do it justice, so I’ll go for the whole thing instead. 😀 And hey, it’s all fun!

If you’re still skeptical, well here’s some of the works I’ve done before:

Brillany Photography Website

Brillany Photography Website, my brother’s photography blog 😀

Brussels Beer Cafe Website

Brussels Beer Cafe Website

Caramelz.my

Caramelz.my, do I need to explain? 🙂

EverythingBabything Website

EverythingBabything.com, a website that sells baby products

Orient Rewards Website

Orient Rewards website mockup, development in progress 🙂

Shinjiru's Sharepoint Website

My company, Shinjiru’s internal business portal (Sharepoint)

Enough of me, now it’s YOUR turn!

If you don’t have a Twitter account yet, GO GET ONE!

If you got a …

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Change: A Waste Of Time?

I was talking with my friends about change. Apparently, change seems to be quite a controversial topic, in some cases. No matter if it’s a change of place, a change of environment, perhaps a change of career or relationship status, there is always one element something that is taken into consideration:

Time.

Apparently, a change is waste of time. Not the time for the process of changing itself, but the time spent on the activity before the change.

It is as if that if you made a change, whatever that you have done before, all is just wasted down the drain and the change is “not worth it”.

Or is that really the case?

Change

Image by TW Collins on Flickr

When do you need change?

Change comes in two forms: by fate, or by will. Usually the former is uncontrollable, if it happens, it happens, and you can’t do anything about it. But the latter is a decision that is in our hands, that we can choose if we want it to happen.

And usually it’s a tough decision indeed.

If we are to choose if we want to change, it is usually out of desperation, tiredness, or boredom. It is ultimately a loss of interest in something that only then, the idea of change comes to mind.

However, apparently, the longer the time we have invested in the subject, the harder it is for us to change.

If you have been dating for the guy for 5 years, and even though you have gone so tired of his feats you are afraid of change, because it would be a waste of what you have done for him.

If you have been working in the company for 8 years, and a change of career will probably bring new prospects and new developments, the fear of change strikes when the sense of insecurity and the idea of adaptation to a new environment makes you feel even more tired of your job now.

If you have started studying the course for a few semesters and you find that it is not something you would like to do for life, but you are afraid to switch your course because of the time and money you have paid to get this far.

But, seriously, what is better for you? Being stuck in a bad state, or taking that step to make things happen for better?

Making that step to change for better

Sometimes when we are afraid to make that change, we will just sit back and pray that everything else will change to be what we want it to be.

But as the old saying goes, “If you can’t change the others, you’ll have to change yourself.

If you want to have a better life, make that step. Time is an irrelevant measure, because if today isn’t good, tomorrow is not likely to be better. Of course I’m not encouraging you to throw your resignation letter just because you had a bad day at work, it’s an analogy, well you know what I mean. 😛

Observe for a period of time before the change. And when you’re sure that things will not get better, go for it.

It doesn’t matter if things will get better or worse, most importantly you have made that step to change what was not good before.

If it gets better, congratulations, you’ve made the right choice!

If it gets worse, congratulations too, it’s time for another change!

Change, anyone?

So, are you considering making that change now? 😉 Or are you still in doubt, weighting the consequences and the “price”?…

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Why Everyone On The Net Wants To Be Famous

Well, I admit, that statement is an exaggeration. But really, just Google the word “how to be famous” and you have millions of websites and spamsites dedicated to “help you grow famous”.

This post is NOT a guide to teach you how to become a famous person, no, I don’t know how to do that because I’m NOT famous. But here’s an exploration of why being famous can be good.

You should know by now there are plenty of stories to hear on this blog. Here’s another one. 😉

Art, or fart?

My last post on Hyperminimalism Writing had gotten some pretty interesting comments. Many commented that it sounds like a Tweet or how things is nicer to be kept short and simple, but here’s one that caught my attention:

Sounds more like a riddle to me…or…well…the author is just too plain lazy. :p

No deny to that, really. We can’t say that he’s wrong, because to everyone of us with the average eye and mind, it does sound like crap and the author is freaking lazy to come up with crap.

But, lets make an assumption that Bill Gates one day say, “I like Hyperminimalism.” One single word will result in speculation across the net with thousands of tweets and retweets every minute scrutinizing the sentence from head to tail.

The Fountain

Almost one hundred year ago, a man submitted a urinal to an arts exhibition and requested for it to be exhibited. He named the urinal as “The Fountain“, and his rationale behind the artwork is on Dadaism philosophy, which disregards traditional notions of art and calling his Fountain “found art”.

Marcel Duchamp -- The Fountain

It was rejected.

But that doesn’t stop from it launching Marcel Duchamp into fame. His Dada movement peers were angered by the rejection, and instead of making Marcel a fool of the time, he got famous as an avant-garde which made a major contribution in the 20th century arts movment.

The point is, if Duchamp did not have the network of friends and the level of fame he has around his friends at the art scene as a Post-Impressionist artist, he would not have survived the attack as he would be so lack of supporters. With a bit of fame and networking, it’s different.

You know what an editorial said about why Duchamp’s The Fountain is so important?

“Whether Mr Mutt made the fountain with his own hands or not has no importance. He CHOSE it. He took an article of life, placed it so that its useful significance disappeared under the new title and point of view – created a new thought for that object.”

Well, let’s not care about how that contributes to the art scene and how is that affecting the art philosophy today.

Our focus here is Duchamp’s fame: if it wasn’t because of Duchamp’s fame before, nobody could have given a shit about what he did, let alone defend Duchamp’s feats. Enough said.

So, do you want to be famous now?

Or do you already want to be famous? 😉

Today if you have a very famous blog or Tweet, you are pretty much guaranteed a good living from all the advertising offers or endorsements or free iPhones and Nexus One being given out for you to test. Not to mention you’ll probably have a few thousand followers watching your back, tweeting (pun intended) about your good moves and clattering about your bad ones.

Famous Spiderman quote, “With great power comes great responsibility.” But oh, power is something so hard to resist.

With the Internet and today’s development in social networking, being famous is a matter of strategy, time, and of course, luck. But I am not going to teach you how to, because I am not famous neither, and without the fame and authority whatever I said does not weight as much as what the people at Mashable said. 😉

Do you have anything to say about people trying to be famous? Or what’s your take on today’s fight for fame?…

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Challenge: Hyperminimalism Writing

So we have hyperminimalism in the visual arts and architecture (pretty much thanks to the modernists and Kasimir Malevich for starting Suprematism), but have you heard of hyperminimalist writing?

I first came across this idea from Unpublished Guy’s blog. His blog is:

“Something happened. A man with glasses was involved.”

So what about that?

The idea is to dip and dap into all the ideas that you’re presenting, then leave everything else for the reader to fill in the blanks. As our Unpublished Guy puts it, “Minimalism leaves the reader to take an active role in the creation of the story by filling in the blanks left by the author’s spare prose.”

So lets see what kind of interesting ideas in life that we can get from here? 😉

Kasimir Malevich -- Black and Red Square

Of course, you don’t get the picture until you’ve seen more of these. Here’s more example from Naissance, a blog by Shelli,

“It shattered like the glass embedded in her hand.”

Somehow, the power of hyperminimalist writing seperates you from everything else on the page, and when you read that single line your head spins to imagine the scene and everything else around it too — the shattering sound, her face as it shattered, the environment, or what is it that actually shattered. Her heart, perhaps?

Another example from Crockstar Blog,

“Sometimes shorter really is better.”

Or is it?

You question and it keeps you thinking, don’t you? So there, it’s successful. 😉

So to try my hand at this… here’s some of my plays:

“Two mice and a cheese. One has to go.”

Maybe that’s too long. Here’s another:

“Reaching my hands out to touch, yet it’s a mirage too far.”

One last one:

“He moans and shoot into the air.”

Ahem. 😛

Perhaps these can make a good Twitter or Tumblr idea. 😛

So come on, try your hand with this and see what you can come out with. I’m wanna know what’s in your head!…

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Making Your Weakness Your Partner, And Dance With It

We’ve talked about maximizing your strengths on the previous post, now what do we do with your weaknesses?

We all have our bad times. Or perhaps some of us are already born with the certain disadvantages that put us a notch below the others. But actually, who is it that is there to determine what is normal or success? And how do we weight ourselves, is it from your heart, or is it from how others see you?

After watching this talk by Aimee Mullins on TEDs, I guess she gave us a very simple but powerful answer.

“It is not so much about overcoming adversity as it is opening ourselves to it, embracing it. Grappling with it. Maybe even dancing with it. Perhaps as we see adversity as something natural, consistent and useful, we’re less burdened by the presence of it. “

Dancing with adversity, making it your partner. Now that’s some new idea that we all can use.

Aimee Mullins: A Living Miracle

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Image courtesy of Rams Sports Performance

Aimee Mullins was born without fibulae in both legs. In other words, she had to amputate both legs off when she was 1 year old, and theoretically she will have to live on a wheelchair for the rest of her life.

That’s what the doctors think.

And of course, as of all stories of all great people in this world, she did not buy that idea and made a miracle out of her adversity. She learned to walk using prosthetic legs by the age of two, and went on to do all what other “normal” kids will do — walk, swim, play, and run.

Oh yes, she can run really well. With her specially designed prosthetic legs she had set World Records on 100 meter, 200 meter and the long jump during the 1996 Atlanta Olympics. No, she did not compete with the other “handicapped” group, she competed with the “normal” bunch who had meat on both sides of the legs, just like you and me.

Oh, instead you’re wondering why she looks so pretty and hot, she did model for Alexander McQueen back in the late 90s. Yep, she’s a model. A hot one at that.

And that is determination. And of course, she did what she preached in this video: to embrace your weaknesses and dance with it.

I am a huge fan of TEDTalks, and this video is another reason why you should watch them.

“The Opportunity Of Adversity”

Accepting And Embracing Your Weaknesses

Well, I’m sure not every one of you are patient enough to sit through the 22 minutes of the video. Let me just summarize the story for you here.

If you have a weakness, or at bad times, accept it to be part of you, embrace it and turn it into an opportunity to do great things.

A lot of us know that we have our own problems. It may be a physical, mental or spiritual problem. And a lot of us chose to just nod our heads at it, and decide to tuck them under the bed or the old dusty chest of the unknown in our hearts and hope we’ll never see them again.

Wrong.

Running away from your problems will not make them go away. They are still there, and they will be back to haunt you no matter how hard you try to hide them.

And if the problems won’t go away, why not just accept and embrace it, and make it a part of you to be proud of?

I personally have problems of my own too. I have been living with the pain of arthritis for the past 15 years, and still counting. I do admit that sometimes I will feel that I can’t achieve what many others can due to my own problems, mostly physically, but I know that I can excel in other parts of life if I work hard (and maybe smart) enough.

Aimee Mullins achieved what many has deemed “impossible” and became a living motivation for all of us. Now, I am passing on the motivation love to you. 🙂

Turning “Disable” To “Poss-able”

At the end of the video, Aimee shared her version of the word “Disable”, different from that from the dictionary:

Disable, (verb)
To crush a spirit, to withdraw hope, to deflate curiousity, to promote an inability to see beauty, to deprive of imagination. To make abject.

Ant. To make poss-able.

Someone with problems is not disabled until you crush their hope. And you are not disabled until you have lost hope.

The day you accepted yourself as a whole, the day you have gained so much more. Perhaps more than many others in this world will ever find, because everything about you, including your weaknesses and problems, are special to your own. Keep them.…

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Use Your Strengths To The Max, And Leave The Rest To Fate

Lets face it, we all live in an imperfect world. And in an imperfect world nobody’s perfect. When nobody’s perfect, there is no such thing as equality, because we are all too different from one another.

That is, in fact, the beauty of nature.

And lets face it, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. It’s not just our strengths or talents that determine how successful are you. Opportunities come and go, it’s also a matter of how well you can utilize your talents when the opportunities come to you.

There is a Chinese saying, “to be successful you need the right time, the right place, and the right people”. To put it simply, if you want to be good, you need to do the right thing at the right time, right place and with the right people around you.

Here’s the catch. You have your strengths and weaknesses. The trick is to capitalize your strengths and talents to the max, find ways to fix your weaknesses, and when you’ve done your part, you can just leave the rest to fate.

Buddha Light Art


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Always Be Prepared

As humans we can only control so much. We may try to meet the right people and source for the right place, but the right time is often out of our control. And who knows what Fate can bring you to, perhaps a better or worse state. You will never know when the opportunity will come to you, because fate weaves and interweaves in such manner that some of us manage to catch them on the spot, while some of us missed the opportunity because “we’re not ready yet”.

There’s also a Chinese saying, “you prepare off the stage for 10 years for a 3 minutes performance on stage”. If you don’t want to miss any opportunities because “you’re not ready”, then you have to prepare yourself for the war, for the stage.

There is nothing more important to be prepared mentally and physically when the opportunity comes. You may think that the war or the performance only lasts for a few minutes, but it is always the split second that you make your decisions, that you “do the right thing” that makes the difference.

Buddha Light Art


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Be Really Good At What You’re Good At

You know what you are good at, and you know what you’re not. If you want to be recognized by what you are good at (and not the other way round), you have to be good at it. As in, really good. You read up books, you go for trainings, you research and learn, you do it again and again until you’re really good at it.

So that when the time comes, when fate presents you with the opportunity, you will not miss it and do a great performance, to fight a great war, so that it can launch you to another level of success.

Of course, if you want it the other way round, you can continue to sulk in what you’re bad at and be really good at what you’re bad at. Then you’re pretty much prepared for failure. 🙂

Or you can fix your weaknesses and reduce them to affect you as as little as possible. As you know that your weaknesses cannot be removed totally, you can focus on your strengths to make them better, but not let your weaknesses pull you down.

Capitalize your talents, then the time will come

Eventually, your time will come. As long as you keep yourself open to opportunities, and as long as you keep yourself prepared, you know that one day you will do a good show, fight a good war.

One thing God is great at, is that He always give us chances to succeed. It is up to us if we want to grip onto the chances and use it to the max to yield great success.

It doesn’t matter if others are better than you. What matters more is how good you’ve done your part when you’re supposed to be doing it. And that makes a difference between a good person, and a great person.

So, do you think that you’re always prepared for a good war or a good show? 🙂

As I said, fate weaves and interweaves in a manner out of our grasps. My life has been going up and down pretty much lately, so sorry guys if I haven’t been active on the blogosphere. I will be back on track real soon, I promise!

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My Three Little (Guinea) Pigs

I have three little pigs.

Well, guinea pigs, at least.

And aww, they pull my heart alright! Though I must admit all those squeeking and squeeling and running about during midnight can be an annoyance, but ooh, look at them!

Totally adorable. <3

My Three Guinea Pigs

The Grey one is getting a year plus old now. He used to partner with my old guinea pig, but that one died due to teeth complications. Guinea pig teeth can keep growing and growing, and if they are not properly structured they can grow into the jaws and locking up their mouth, making them not able to eat. That’s what happened to my last pig. Genetic problems, the doctor said. 🙁

Then Greyhead was lonely for a couple of months now. Like 4 months. And all he does is eat and sleep. That’s why you see that he’s so damn fat.

So a few weeks ago I went to buy Sasame (the darker grey one) and Latte (the coffee colored one) here to accompany Greyhead. At first they were pretty afraid… well for 15 minutes anyway. After a few hours they’re running about chasing each other and cuddling together. Awww.

Though Greyhead still eats the most between them all, but I am sure in time the other two will be just as fat. As fat as ME!

If you’re wondering, they are all Abyssinian guinea pigs. I used to have 2 Sheltie guinea pigs, but oh well, they left me. 🙁

Nevermind, I have Three Little (Guinea) Pigs to keep me company in my room all day and night!

My Three Guinea Pigs
My Three Guinea Pigs
My Three Guinea Pigs
My Three Guinea Pigs

Oh my love <3

Do you have any pets yourself? Guinea pigs lovers, anyone? :3…

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How much do you trust? Is it enough?

First of all, I have to apologize for my lack of updates and I have been slacking off at reading your blogs. Busy with work and life, my bad at that!! Sorry!

This morning I have heard from the radio station, there was this community message thing done by OneFM from time to time to promote different human values. This time it’s about trust.

The setting was pretty typical, a girl gives her friend something to do, and asks for the progress. The friend reassures that everything is in control, and the girl starts to worry that the details are not done well enough, things are that she must do everything right or they might lose the job and this and that.

The friend listens to her worries for a while and when she couldn’t take it, she interrupts, “You’ve passed the job to me, then you should trust me to do the job well!”

Exactly. Have you ever ask yourself, how much do you trust your friends, family or colleagues, and do you trust them enough?

Mother and Baby Underwater, Trust

Image @Denise Lamby on Flickr

I’m sure that a lot of us work in a team or together with other people a lot of times. Unless you’re a lone ranger then you might not have to deal with anyone else, but then there must be some time that you have to cooperate and work with others to get some things done.

It may be that project you want to pitch for the company, that daily admin job of the office, that wedding you’re going to organize, that Chinese New Year chores you want to start working on with your family, or that holiday trip you’re planning with your friends.

Humans are social animals. We can only get so much done by ourselves, that’s why we need the help of others. And when we need the help of others, we have to trust them to be able to help us.

Lack of confidence is annoying

There’s nothing more annoying than asking help from someone then not trust them enough to do the job. Well it doesn’t matter if you are forced to be in a team or if you asked them for help, but as long as you’re working together, you should trust them.

Because most of the time they know what they’re doing before even taking on the task. This shows that they’re confident to do the job, so why are you not confident in them?

If they’re professionals, you should trust them even more because they know what to do better than you.

If they’re just as clueless as you, you should trust them to be able to make good enough decisions.

If they’re not as competent as you, you should trust them to make some progress and guide them along the way, not doubting and dismissing their thoughts and actions.

Relationships are built on trust

Of course, being overly confident and trusting too much can sometimes lead to disappointment. But really, if you don’t give at least a minimum standard of trust and be an ass trying too hard to get things right your way, you will end up hurting the job and the relationship more than being any real help.

Relationships build on trust. It’s only through trusting someone that we be open to each other and form a great relationship, to be great friends or great family or great colleagues. To gain trust you need to prove yourself to be trustworthy, but you have to do the most basic thing first too.

Learn to trust. 🙂

Do you trust your friends and family enough? Or are you one of the worry-warts that think too much? 😉…

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Work efficiency isn’t that important, Working Style is

Well after pondering for a few days I’ve been thinking what else interesting can I write about after my Thailand trip. It was all shopping, food, night life, and everything is just as any other trip.

And I’m sure too much of food porn and shopping showoffs will make you think that I’m an asshole.

So instead of talking about those materialistic achievements and how my waist have grown three inches after my Bangkok trip, I looked back at my tweets during my time in Bangkok and I’ve found this:

I saw a secondary schoolboy doing maths homework with his iPhone, his girlfriend next to him at the foodcourt of Siam Paragon.

A companion of mine commented when he saw this during the trip,

It’s not just about the efficiency of the work, it’s also about the style of how you work!

So really, how true is that?

iPhone Braun Calculator

Yep, he’s a secondary school boy, 15, or 16 at most, flipping and tinkering around his iPhone while writing his maths answers onto the textbook. While his girlfriend is using her brains most of the time, she takes a peep whenever she gets a chance.

All in a high class shopping mall’s food court, Siam Paragon, which you can compare to our Kuala Lumpur’s Pavilion shopping mall.

That really leaves me pondering.

So you have a normal calculator and you have the iPhone at hand. If given the choice, most of us will choose the iPhone because it’s more efficient.

Or is it?

You can click on the buttons just as good as you click on a normal calculator. But clicking on an iPhone makes you feel better, doesn’t it? The eye candy, the swoosh and swirls and the scrolls and fades, and ooh not to mention the stares of jealousy and envy when people walk around you. That can make you feel real good.

So you can make phone calls and send sms with just any cheap handphone. Why choose an iPhone or Satio?

So you can cook just any dish just as good with a cheap Ikea non-stick pan. Why get a Buffalo Pan?

So you can always get the help of your brother or sister or your wife or husband to help you relieve the pain at your back with some good massage. Why get an Osim massage chair?

So you can just get a simple laptop at a cheap price at the store. Why get a Lenovo or HP or Dell?

Because really, no matter how much you want to deny it, style does play a role in your purchase decisions, because working with style and doing things with style makes you feel good.

So much for our rational decision making, hmm?

But then, this is what drives the consumerist society around. The need of luxury for self-realization and a reaffirmation of self values.

Do you agree that we not only strive to work efficiently, we want to work stylishly as well? And sometimes, even efficiency is compromised, we just plain wanna look stylish!

Hmm, excuse me while I go drool at the Google’s new phone Nexus One. Damn it’s so cool, I wanna get one!…

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Thai Lady Boys doing Wonder Girls “Nobody” Dance Cover

Well, I vowed that I will catch the lady boys this time at Bangkok, and I made it! Went to watch the Mambo Cabaret Show at Bangkok, Thailand, and to my pleasant surprise, they did a dance cover for the popular Korean group Wonder Girls’ “Nobody”!

Yep, they are the lady boys. Or you can call them the transvestite or the “agua”s, but whatever you call them, they did a pretty great job!

And I really mean, PRETTY! They’re hotter than many girls out there okay, you can’t find a trace of manliness in their performance!

Here’s a video of the performance. Don’t miss it, really!!

Well, consider that my souvenir gift and apology gift for you for being missing from this blog for so long, will ya?

But of course, there’s more! How can I leave you deprived with only one video and no extra pictures?

Taking a picture with Thai Lady Boy from Mambo Cabaret Show, Bangkok

Look at the boobs! They look oh so… squeezable! Do you have that, lady, hmm, hmmmmmm? >:)

Taking a picture with Thai Lady Boy from Mambo Cabaret Show, Bangkok

That’s my friend Nick with one of the princesses of the show. At first she took this pic, but thinking it’s probably too tame, she took this one after the shot!

Taking a picture with Thai Lady Boy from Mambo Cabaret Show, Bangkok

So huggable!

Of course, how can one princess be enough? It’s not every day you get to take picture with a pretty gal, you know!

So here’s more with another princess!

Taking a picture with Thai Lady Boy from Mambo Cabaret Show, Bangkok

Yep, she’s one of the “Wonder Girls” around in the video! The tallest with the prettiest hair and biggest boobs! Woohoo!

So how can I miss out the chance?!

Taking a picture with Thai Lady Boy from Mambo Cabaret Show, Bangkok

Of course have to take also lah!!

Actually, not to say anything but this princess winked at me and “electrocuted” me even before the show starts and throughout the show whenever she’s on stage, so I’ll be really sorry if I don’t take a pic with her, right? 😛

These “girls” are way too hot to think that they are once a guy. From the looks, at least. As well as all the moves, the way they stand, they way they put their arms around you, and on the warmth on the boobs. <3

But oh well, there’s always something that deceives them. When they started talking the coarse voice still reveals all truths. Who cares, the eye candy is more important, no? 😉

Well, I’m sure that’s not enough of pretty gals! Or lady boys, hmm. 😛

So here comes the killer pic!

This one is really the hottest of them all, no kidding!

Are you ready?

Here it comes!!

Fat Thai Lady Boy from Mambo Cabaret Show, Bangkok

Oh, sizzling indeed!!…

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Grey is taking a leave…

And going to Bangkok, Thailand.

The land where the guys are prettier than girls.

Well, the girl-guys, anyway. Ladyboys in another word. “Aqua”s, in Malaysian dialect.

I will definitely catch them this time!!

Well I’m not only going to Bangkok for the ladyboys. I’m going there for Chinese New Year shopping too. Clothes there are way cheap, okay!

So while I’m busy chasing ladyboys around in Thailand, if you happen to get bored on the net, why not take a look at my older posts?

Just keep scrolling down this page, I’m sure you’ll find something you’d like to read!

Stay tuned, Grey will be back by Wednesday, 13th Jan 2010!

Bangkok Ladyboy Show


Image @nttoan93 on Flickr…

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You’re Not As Rational When Making Decisions As You Think

How do you make your decisions?

Most of us would like to think that we are rational creatures that go through and speculate each of our choices as well as the chances and benefits before making our day to day decisions.

That includes which tomato to put into the basket, what to eat for lunch, where to watch the next movie, which car to buy, who to sell the house to and which company to buy over.

But, are we really that rational as we think we are, or are there other forces that pushes us to make our decisions otherwise that are actually irrational, yet we rationalize our decisions to make it seem rational?

Sounds confusing? Well watch this video by Dan Ariely, a world-famous behavioral economist and the author of Predictably Irrational, in this intereting TedTalk about “Are we in control of our decisions?”.

Really. Give this post 20 minutes, and perhaps you will make better decisions next time. Or maybe you think will be. 😉

Dan Ariely: Are we in control of our decisions?

How do you make your decisions?

Adidas Vs Nike

I’m looking for a pair of sport shoes. I’ve been looking around for quite some time now, going through stores and as usual, there are the usual Nike and Adidas fight. Why Nike and Adidas? Well because all the advertisements tell me that they’re probably have the best sport shoes out there. All the other brands rarely advertise to tell me how good their shoes are so I assume they’re not.

So I’ve went to both concept stores with a couple of friends. With each batch of friend I go with they will tell me different stories. Some tell me Adidas last longer because of the better quality, some tell me that Nike is better because it has the Nike+ function. Some go through the technology of Nike’s bouncy shoes while the other scrutinize the quality of Adidas shoes from tip to toe with me.

I looked through all the shoes and I listened to all the stories. I’ve nodded and kept all the advices in mind (or at least I’ve tried to).

Then I saw these pair of shoes at Nike on the shelf display. Lime green. Futuristic look. Mmm, I like that color.

“But Adidas shoes last longer! My friend got a Nike shoe and within a year it broke!”
“Uhm… But it’s the latest technology from Nike that promises it lasts forever.”
“But it doesn’t last! Adidas make longer-lasting shoes!”
“But it has the bouncy technology thingy and the Nike+ thingy!”
“But look at the price! It’s double the price of the Adidas shoe!”
“Higher price means better quality!”

I will find a hundred and one reasons to defend my decision. Actually I just happen to like the color and style of the shoe. All the advertisements gave me more excuse to buy the shoe that I have chose based on my irrational decision, so that I can rationalize my decision to my Adidas lover friends.

What, why do you think advertisements exist? They aid in making your irrational purchase decision rational so that you will buy their product, that’s why.

You’ve probably already made a decision before you think about it

As Dan Areily have probably got you convinced if you watched the above video, we make irrational decisions every day. Our decisions are affected by our limited cognitive abilities as well as the information that we’re bombarded every day.

And through our intuition our mind makes the first decision before you even think about it. As you speculate over the decision you might or might not deny the initial decision, but many intuitive decisions go through our mind are affected by the surrounding, not our rationale.

It may be at the time that the surroundings made the product stand out and look more prominent to you. It may because that you just happen to like something green that day. It may because that it smells like your bed thus you’re attracted to it. Well they aren’t really “valid” reasons if you come to look at it from a rational mind, but it happens.

Next time when you decide which chocolate to buy at the mart, well, stop and think about how do you think of the chocolate and why do you want to buy this chocolate.

You can come up with thousands of reasons why this chocolate is better than the others. Rational answers. Lower calories, more milk, more nuts maybe. But probably it has just attracted you under the right lighting conditions, placed in an eye catching position or it has your favorite color. All these things “nudge” our mind to make us choose that chocolate over the other.

And once we’ve made our decision we’ll probably stick with it, because we think that it’s a rational decision.

Same goes to “why I want to buy this car”, “why I want to buy this shirt”, “why I want to buy this laptop”, “why I want to get this drink”.

There, an irrational decision. 😉 Why do you think that chocolate companies pay so much to have “premium placement” at the supermarket?

Oh and that love-at-first-sight? It’s just the lighting, really.

So, how rational are you?

How much time do you spend to think about your everyday decisions, or do you just go with the first answer that come to your mind because you know that …

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The Story of A Transgender Pianist — Sara Davis Buechner

How do you judge someone? By the talent, or by the race or gender?

As much as we would like to think that we’re open-minded enough to judge people by their abilities rather than the gender or race, but the fact is when I tell you someone is an Indian women and you will have the stereotype of the person being a housewife at a remote village rather than a manager of a well known company.

And now, picture yourself a 50 years old transgender American. What came to your mind? Think about it for 5 seconds and picture that.

Now I am about to tell you that she was once a child prodigy, and now a very talented pianist that won numerous awards and performs over 60 concerts a year today. Did you see that coming?

But Sara Davis Buechner did have a time when she was discriminated and lost most of her jobs when she came out as a transgender during the height of her career as David Buechner.

This is a story of a transgender pianist that made her way back to the stage and proud of it. Read on.

Sex Changes Everything?

Before you go on, just click play on the video below. If this is what Sara Davis Buechner is capable of doing, what happened in the 5 years after she undergone sex change operation and came out as a transgender at the age of 39?


Sara Davis Buechner performs Kouji Taku’s Variations on a theme of Poulenc

Think about it. Sara Davis Buechner had established herself as a reputable pianist for the past 39 years. New York Times called her “an extraordinary young artist” when she made her debut as David Buechner in the New York City debut. She had awed the crowd with her impeccable technique and virtuosity back then, and it was no doubt that her talent shined through the globe as she was performing 50 concerts a year.

Until the sex change. Then it dropped to 5 concerts a year, she couldn’t get a job applying as a lecturer at over 35 universities, and she succumbed to teaching children in a conservatory.

“A nice lady said, ‘Why teach here?’ I lied. I said, ‘I want to teach kids.’ I needed work.” [Sara] earned a third of what David had made 10 years earlier. — Anything He Can Do, She Can Do, New York Times

Anything He Can Do, She Can Do

Sara Davis Buechner

Yes, it’s true. Whatever David Buechner can do, Sara Davis Buechner can do too. Her technique and skills did not miraculously drop as she undergone the sex change, so does her warmth and charm and stagecraft. They are all the same.

What had changed is the opinions of people towards her sexuality. What had changed is the double standards of people towards a man and a transgender. Well, I guess I don’t need to tell a long story about how the double standard works. You and I have all have all done it before, and I myself admit that I have been guilty of judging someone through their gender before as well.

Through The Help Of A Friend


Crossing The Concourse, a documentary of Sara Davis Buechner by New York Times

A friend of Sara, Carrie Feiner, started to manage her concerts and jobs in from August 2002. As Julliard classmates Carrie knew what Sara is capable of, and even as a mother of 4 kids she tried her best to help Sara get back on her feet. She encouraged Sara to apply for a job at University of British Columbia as a professor. After several interviews and master classes given, Sara had proven herself as being a capable educator and she got the job since, until now.

Carrie has also started to book Sara concerts. And she did well being a manager. As Sara began to perform around the world, critiques see the talent in Sara again. The reviews began to turn positive. Instead of judging Sara through the gender, they have recognized her virtuosity and skills, something she have never lost but only needed recognition.

“Buechner has it all — intelligence, integrity, and all-encompassing technical prowess.” (Tim Page, The New York Times)

“This was clearly pianist Sara Davis Buechner’s shining moment. She leapt and swayed and bobbed through this concerto as if riding a bucking bronco….an entertaining romp tailor-made for the virtuoso. The standing ovation for Buechner was well-earned.” (Peter Bates, Boston Fine Arts Reviews)

“Buechner’s performance had a beauty that might have taken even Mozart’s breath away.” (Joseph Banno, The Washington Post)

“This performance had everything – style, technique, taste and originality…each work was carefully chosen and struck a fine balance between accessibility and sophistication…Buechner made every phrase an event, placed every voice as if setting crystal on crushed velvet, and calculated every tempo fluctuation with keen dramatic timing.” (Philip Kennicott, New York Newsday)

As we end the story…

I can’t help but to ask the question again, do you judge someone by the talent, or the race or gender?

The story of Sara Davis Buechner had reminded me once again, not to judge by the latter, because real talent should not be bound by racial or gender stereotypes.

Stereotypes will only bind our mind, not talent.

Here’s more music from Sara Davis Buechner. And oh, they touch my heart oh so deeply.


My personal favorite! Must listen okay??


A showcase