I was talking with my friends about change. Apparently, change seems to be quite a controversial topic, in some cases. No matter if it’s a change of place, a change of environment, perhaps a change of career or relationship status, there is always one element something that is taken into consideration:
Apparently, a change is waste of time. Not the time for the process of changing itself, but the time spent on the activity before the change.
It is as if that if you made a change, whatever that you have done before, all is just wasted down the drain and the change is “not worth it”.
Or is that really the case?
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When do you need change?
Change comes in two forms: by fate, or by will. Usually the former is uncontrollable, if it happens, it happens, and you can’t do anything about it. But the latter is a decision that is in our hands, that we can choose if we want it to happen.
And usually it’s a tough decision indeed.
If we are to choose if we want to change, it is usually out of desperation, tiredness, or boredom. It is ultimately a loss of interest in something that only then, the idea of change comes to mind.
However, apparently, the longer the time we have invested in the subject, the harder it is for us to change.
If you have been dating for the guy for 5 years, and even though you have gone so tired of his feats you are afraid of change, because it would be a waste of what you have done for him.
If you have been working in the company for 8 years, and a change of career will probably bring new prospects and new developments, the fear of change strikes when the sense of insecurity and the idea of adaptation to a new environment makes you feel even more tired of your job now.
If you have started studying the course for a few semesters and you find that it is not something you would like to do for life, but you are afraid to switch your course because of the time and money you have paid to get this far.
But, seriously, what is better for you? Being stuck in a bad state, or taking that step to make things happen for better?
Making that step to change for better
Sometimes when we are afraid to make that change, we will just sit back and pray that everything else will change to be what we want it to be.
But as the old saying goes, “If you can’t change the others, you’ll have to change yourself.”
If you want to have a better life, make that step. Time is an irrelevant measure, because if today isn’t good, tomorrow is not likely to be better. Of course I’m not encouraging you to throw your resignation letter just because you had a bad day at work, it’s an analogy, well you know what I mean. 😛
Observe for a period of time before the change. And when you’re sure that things will not get better, go for it.
It doesn’t matter if things will get better or worse, most importantly you have made that step to change what was not good before.
If it gets better, congratulations, you’ve made the right choice!
If it gets worse, congratulations too, it’s time for another change!
So, are you considering making that change now? 😉 Or are you still in doubt, weighting the consequences and the “price”?