We’ve talked about maximizing your strengths on the previous post, now what do we do with your weaknesses?
We all have our bad times. Or perhaps some of us are already born with the certain disadvantages that put us a notch below the others. But actually, who is it that is there to determine what is normal or success? And how do we weight ourselves, is it from your heart, or is it from how others see you?
After watching this talk by Aimee Mullins on TEDs, I guess she gave us a very simple but powerful answer.
“It is not so much about overcoming adversity as it is opening ourselves to it, embracing it. Grappling with it. Maybe even dancing with it. Perhaps as we see adversity as something natural, consistent and useful, we’re less burdened by the presence of it. “
Dancing with adversity, making it your partner. Now that’s some new idea that we all can use.
Aimee Mullins: A Living Miracle
Image courtesy of Rams Sports Performance
Aimee Mullins was born without fibulae in both legs. In other words, she had to amputate both legs off when she was 1 year old, and theoretically she will have to live on a wheelchair for the rest of her life.
That’s what the doctors think.
And of course, as of all stories of all great people in this world, she did not buy that idea and made a miracle out of her adversity. She learned to walk using prosthetic legs by the age of two, and went on to do all what other “normal” kids will do — walk, swim, play, and run.
Oh yes, she can run really well. With her specially designed prosthetic legs she had set World Records on 100 meter, 200 meter and the long jump during the 1996 Atlanta Olympics. No, she did not compete with the other “handicapped” group, she competed with the “normal” bunch who had meat on both sides of the legs, just like you and me.
Oh, instead you’re wondering why she looks so pretty and hot, she did model for Alexander McQueen back in the late 90s. Yep, she’s a model. A hot one at that.
And that is determination. And of course, she did what she preached in this video: to embrace your weaknesses and dance with it.
I am a huge fan of TEDTalks, and this video is another reason why you should watch them.
“The Opportunity Of Adversity”
Accepting And Embracing Your Weaknesses
Well, I’m sure not every one of you are patient enough to sit through the 22 minutes of the video. Let me just summarize the story for you here.
If you have a weakness, or at bad times, accept it to be part of you, embrace it and turn it into an opportunity to do great things.
A lot of us know that we have our own problems. It may be a physical, mental or spiritual problem. And a lot of us chose to just nod our heads at it, and decide to tuck them under the bed or the old dusty chest of the unknown in our hearts and hope we’ll never see them again.
Running away from your problems will not make them go away. They are still there, and they will be back to haunt you no matter how hard you try to hide them.
And if the problems won’t go away, why not just accept and embrace it, and make it a part of you to be proud of?
I personally have problems of my own too. I have been living with the pain of arthritis for the past 15 years, and still counting. I do admit that sometimes I will feel that I can’t achieve what many others can due to my own problems, mostly physically, but I know that I can excel in other parts of life if I work hard (and maybe smart) enough.
Aimee Mullins achieved what many has deemed “impossible” and became a living motivation for all of us. Now, I am passing on the motivation love to you. 🙂
Turning “Disable” To “Poss-able”
At the end of the video, Aimee shared her version of the word “Disable”, different from that from the dictionary:
To crush a spirit, to withdraw hope, to deflate curiousity, to promote an inability to see beauty, to deprive of imagination. To make abject.
Ant. To make poss-able.
Someone with problems is not disabled until you crush their hope. And you are not disabled until you have lost hope.
The day you accepted yourself as a whole, the day you have gained so much more. Perhaps more than many others in this world will ever find, because everything about you, including your weaknesses and problems, are special to your own. Keep them.