How much do you trust? Is it enough?
January 23, 2010 | 2:11 pm ShareFirst of all, I have to apologize for my lack of updates and I have been slacking off at reading your blogs. Busy with work and life, my bad at that!! Sorry!
This morning I have heard from the radio station, there was this community message thing done by OneFM from time to time to promote different human values. This time it’s about trust.
The setting was pretty typical, a girl gives her friend something to do, and asks for the progress. The friend reassures that everything is in control, and the girl starts to worry that the details are not done well enough, things are that she must do everything right or they might lose the job and this and that.
The friend listens to her worries for a while and when she couldn’t take it, she interrupts, “You’ve passed the job to me, then you should trust me to do the job well!”
Exactly. Have you ever ask yourself, how much do you trust your friends, family or colleagues, and do you trust them enough?
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I’m sure that a lot of us work in a team or together with other people a lot of times. Unless you’re a lone ranger then you might not have to deal with anyone else, but then there must be some time that you have to cooperate and work with others to get some things done.
It may be that project you want to pitch for the company, that daily admin job of the office, that wedding you’re going to organize, that Chinese New Year chores you want to start working on with your family, or that holiday trip you’re planning with your friends.
Humans are social animals. We can only get so much done by ourselves, that’s why we need the help of others. And when we need the help of others, we have to trust them to be able to help us.
Lack of confidence is annoying
There’s nothing more annoying than asking help from someone then not trust them enough to do the job. Well it doesn’t matter if you are forced to be in a team or if you asked them for help, but as long as you’re working together, you should trust them.
Because most of the time they know what they’re doing before even taking on the task. This shows that they’re confident to do the job, so why are you not confident in them?
If they’re professionals, you should trust them even more because they know what to do better than you.
If they’re just as clueless as you, you should trust them to be able to make good enough decisions.
If they’re not as competent as you, you should trust them to make some progress and guide them along the way, not doubting and dismissing their thoughts and actions.
Relationships are built on trust
Of course, being overly confident and trusting too much can sometimes lead to disappointment. But really, if you don’t give at least a minimum standard of trust and be an ass trying too hard to get things right your way, you will end up hurting the job and the relationship more than being any real help.
Relationships build on trust. It’s only through trusting someone that we be open to each other and form a great relationship, to be great friends or great family or great colleagues. To gain trust you need to prove yourself to be trustworthy, but you have to do the most basic thing first too.
Learn to trust. :)
Do you trust your friends and family enough? Or are you one of the worry-warts that think too much? ;)
Filed under: Life
Tags: family, friendship, love, relationships, trust
Comments (24)
purplesunset
January 23rd, 2010 at 7:29 am
trust_____is the basic relationship condition.
caihong
January 23rd, 2010 at 8:54 am
trust is very important in everysingle relationships range from friendship,family love and lots:0
:)
Pikey
January 23rd, 2010 at 9:19 am
Trust is to be earned and the worst thing to happen is a betrayal..
bengbeng
January 23rd, 2010 at 12:03 pm
i dont when it started when my trust in ppl sort of intensified and i stopped checking on them… maybe it came with a surge in self confidence
shakira
January 23rd, 2010 at 1:01 pm
Trust issues…I am pretty good at it really.
I mean considering that I am the only one who
is more trusting than both hubby and daughters! lol
I think it is true that…when we trust ourselves , we trust people more.
Trust need to be earned too.
Have you a great weekend, Grey.
hugs,
shakira
Himmat
January 23rd, 2010 at 3:11 pm
It is a shame to say that the comunity lacks trust in anotjer these days…not the least becoz of the immoral hhuman nature that likes to lie…
kelvin
January 23rd, 2010 at 4:42 pm
It takes years to build trust, but a few seconds to destroy it.
William
January 23rd, 2010 at 5:21 pm
At work, without much trust in others… it's gonna be a hell of time trying to delegate things. But it still does not mean we blindly give trust… or they'll be much shit to clean up!
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:05 am
yeah, as Shakira said, when you trust yourself more, you will trust others as well :)
kenwooi
January 23rd, 2010 at 11:54 pm
trust is hard to be gained..
but once it is gained, things will go well =)
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 3:59 am
Yep, true that! And it's important for you to give trust at the first place too :D Without giving trust nobody gain any from ya!
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:00 am
haha yeah thats true, you have to keep a watchful eye, of course you have to give them some space to work on at least and trust them enough, not too much, not too little :D
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:01 am
damn right!
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:02 am
yep… we're letting the liar minorities to affect us honest majorities to become lest trustful. and that's sad.
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:04 am
hmm, now that's something neat Shakira. when we trust ourselves, we trust people more. it's a matter of our own self confidence that we trust our own judgment at the first place and trust them to do the right thing :)
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:08 am
yep, so never betray others trust! for we dont want our trust to be betrayed too. :)
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:09 am
yeah, trust is pretty much like the building block of everything! :D
conancat
January 24th, 2010 at 4:09 am
yeah lor! so how much do you trust people? ;)
serious_sam_hk
January 24th, 2010 at 11:14 am
i have trust issues….
that;s y i seldom ask other ppl for their help…
i would rather do everything myself…
but i'm always glad to offer my help to others…
hehe….
that explains y my work will never come to an end…
haiz…
ppl do trust me, jut i dont..
haha…
pity me…
aaron
January 26th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I have problem trusting people, but being a leader in a team, I must delegate my work to them. Therefore it's a great journey to learn to appreciate different people's ability, and of course I learn to trust them myself.
Dhar
January 27th, 2010 at 5:50 am
I think I think too much sometimes because when I trusted some people, I got badly damaged. Haiz. Then again, it's also my fault for trusting blindly. Perhaps we all have to give everyone time to prove themselves.
conancat
January 28th, 2010 at 7:46 am
aww! well i guess you have to learn to trust then, slowly definitely, but you'll get there eventually :D don't do everything by yourself, even the best football player can't score a goal if he doesn't trust his team members! :D
conancat
January 28th, 2010 at 7:43 am
aww! wel yeah, never trust blindly, but don't not trust at all neither. just have to be just right, especially if you have trust issues!
conancat
January 28th, 2010 at 7:47 am
yep yep! i agree, if you're the leader you really have to do it, regardless how much your members abilities are sucky, you still have to learn to trust them to do the best thing. :D if you know what they're good at, you will definitely do better at assigning jobs to them!
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