Hello Stranger, How Are You?

December 20, 2009 | 3:17 pm Share

I don’t know about you, but there are so many people in our lives that it seems that we’ve seen them forever, we’ve known them forever, yet we don’t really know them.

This might sound confusing at first, but take a look around you, it may be that guard that keeps your house and office safe every day, that nasi lemak seller that you buy your breakfast from every day, the bus conductor that gives you your ticket, or even that guy or girl that sits at that corner of the train every day.

They’re like the closest strangers, ever.

Sounds romantic and fictional, but it happens. There are so many people around us that we see every day, you may notice the change of their hairstyle, the new shirt they’re wearing, the new bag she gotten, the new phone he had, yet we don’t know even know their name.

They are the closest strangers, ever.

Lonely Man Sitting Against The Wall
Image @Daviddesign on Flickr

It’s so hard to say “hi”

A tweet from @Available had illustrated this pretty well,

“at the supermarket, i’m afraid to talk to the person next in-line, yet on twitter…HOW ARE YOU?!”

Yeah, why are we so afraid to talk to the stranger around us in real life, yet we’re so daring to say hi to just virtually anyone on the Net?

Is it because that we’ve grown so accustomed to the notions that strangers may not be good people, so we would rather not take the risk and say hi at all? Instead, over the net you can say “hi” to anyone because they can never harm you, physically?

But then, isn’t that cold? Can you feel the chill now, the chillness of the urban life?

A word is all it takes to spark

If we’ve taken the first step to say “Hi”, we might have not been strangers anymore.

I remember that when I was young, I used to buy these noodles (Pan Mee) from this vendor almost every day. Eventually the aunties there grew to recognize me, and while we ceased to talk other than closing the deal, it felt warm inside that they actually know what I wanted even before I ordered.

Then one day, I said “Hi” when I arrived at the store. The auntie smiled back, and we sparked a conversation about my school, my studies, her work, her life. And what’s interesting is that she seemed to know so much about me, about how I grew up over the years, when I changed my school bag, when I got a new haircut.

We’ve seen each other every day, all it takes is just a plain “hi”, and we’ve grown to know each other a little bit better. Not so much of a stranger anymore, are we?

Customer relations, they say. Humanity, is what I call it.

Let’s not be Strangers, shall we?

Really, the world needs more warmth. It isn’t that difficult, really, just start with a smile in your face, and say “hi” to them. The person in the same lift with you, the janitor at the corridor, the canteen cashier, the uncle at the bus corner, the girl next class, the boy next department.

Who knows what might spark from the simple “hi”. But whatever it is, it’ll not be a bad thing, it rarely will. Ditch the newspapers or the goddamn news, the world has more good people than you think.

Hello, stranger. How are you today?

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Comments (43)

cassie

December 20th, 2009 at 1:39 pm    

nice.. Hi stranger.. how r u recently.. lol

it's really true.. we feel safe when we see the same ppl everyday eventhough we don't Hi.. we know them but we really don't know them,, Loz.. I'm losing my mind..

anyway, interesting concept u made there.. I'll remember it! ^.^

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 2:16 pm    

hehe yeah, i chat with taxi drivers and random people at LRT too… of course the co-workers during pantry time, chat for fun oso good :D

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 2:17 pm    

yeah lor, the moms will talk a lot to them lor and you don't a single thing about the aunties xD haha my mom oso will gossip with other aunties about me and my bro at times, so when we actually meet the aunties it seems like they know a lot about us!

jfook

December 20th, 2009 at 2:30 pm    

Perhaps I agree with you. Strangers happen to be someone closest to you.

Gratitude

December 20th, 2009 at 7:24 am    

I let off so many sparks….I've start lil' fires in so many beds ! :P lolz

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 7:26 am    

wow, ain't you a real flamer! :P

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 3:35 pm    

hehe, maybe you should stay inside the gym too. :P but meh, well i guess if you truly wanna enjoy the party, it's always great to say hi to just about anyone and bump into the conversation as much as you can :D who knows, you might find that guy or girl of your life! :D

CHVoon

December 20th, 2009 at 4:30 pm    

this i really dont know what to comment… as what i know is
to say “HI”

William

December 20th, 2009 at 9:48 am    

For me, it depends on the situation. I always end up chatting with taxi drivers though. Sometimes random people on the LRT.

ericleeh

December 20th, 2009 at 10:20 am    

Hi Stranger…LOL love this remark…the closest strangers…i bet most have to agree are all those aunties ah sam that keep on gossiping and talk about you with your mom….i remember going to eat wan tan mee who happen to be my mother's friend…she happen to know my exam results, which school i went and what time i usually play basketball…truth is…i never spoke a word to her b4 about my life…haha

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 2:16 pm    

haha… well hi to you too, Voon! :D

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 2:18 pm    

hehe yup, we know them but don't really know them! and meh, if you still dun talk to me on thursdays then we'll really be strangers lor! wahhaha! :P

bengbeng

December 20th, 2009 at 2:50 pm    

Hi stranger :)

Now we r no longer strangers :)

serious_sam_hk

December 20th, 2009 at 3:31 pm    

just came back from the red carnival volunteer gathering party…
i am really really poor in facing with strangers, especially full house of strangers…
i was rather stiff, uptight and kept quiet hiding at a corner..
thankfully there were some ppl who r willing to come and chit chat with me…
then it ended up a warm and gleeful occasion…
haizz., i really lack inter-personal skill….
that's y i'd rather stay inside the lab..
haha

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 3:36 pm    

like, yay! :P but we're still kinda strangers in a way until i said hi to you in person :P

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 3:37 pm    

yep… so don't be a stranger, aye? :)

serious_sam_hk

December 20th, 2009 at 3:54 pm    

i am kinda passive in nature de…
hehe…
while others are sooo soo open-minded..
joked about their sex lives…
calling themselves auntie/uncle..
haha…

conancat

December 20th, 2009 at 4:28 pm    

yeah lor… maybe you should chill and open up a bit, hehe. passive guys are cute tho :P

manglish

December 21st, 2009 at 12:30 am    

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh so this is where u have been hiding….hahahaahah

cassie

December 21st, 2009 at 1:19 am    

who say i din talk to u.. i got arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr sobz..

shakira

December 21st, 2009 at 7:31 pm    

Hi Grey,
Come over and say hi to me in my new blog, http://www.justmeshakirack.blogspot.com ?

I am pretty good with strangers although not all strangers are good with me!LOL. So, if you see an Auntie coming up to you and says hi…. it could be ME!!! LOL.

hugs,
shakira

Pikey

December 21st, 2009 at 2:05 pm    

Hhhmmm…. the best i did was smile and morning greet to the condo guards, lolx… my office kuih seller kakak.. only chat when buy snacks from her lar…

Tallboyz

December 21st, 2009 at 10:50 pm    

Harlo Stranger! Heheheh

Paul

December 21st, 2009 at 3:44 pm    

Kinda like this fella I see in Kinokuniya all the time :) Just wave hello once in a while though!

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:04 am    

ok lur… u say got then ma got lor… wahhahaha :P

Dhar

December 22nd, 2009 at 12:11 am    

hi Grey! am I a stranger :P

Anyway I feel it's true that I have quite a lot of strangers in my life… like I feel I know them but I don't really… Thought-provoking blog post… And I somehow believe it's they past birth memories thingy leh!

BoeyJoey

December 22nd, 2009 at 6:17 am    

Hi Grey! Thanks for dropping by, and "bringing" me here :-)

Well, I do chat with the nasi lemak seller, the "chap fan" auntie, the office cleaners, the fruit seller, but they're all on "bang", "kak" and "auntie" basis, no names…

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:01 am    

haha and thank you for dropping by here too! :D haha well at least you talk to them, some people just ignore the poor bangs and kaks or even avoid talking to them all together, that's sad :(

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:02 am    

haha deja vu from the past life, maybe! :P yup, if you meet another familiar looking stranger, just say hi! :D

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:02 am    

well, at least you wave hello once in a while! :D
oh, and is he cute? :P

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:02 am    

nice to meet ya stranger!! :P

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:03 am    

haha yeah, i oso smile at the condo guards every morning too, huhu. i oso chat with the nasi lemak kakak once in a while :P

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:04 am    

so you got a new blog! i was trying to enter ur old blog and it says something like virus infected or so, got me worried! and well i wouldn't mind if a pretty auntie like you come up to me and say hi! :D

conancat

December 22nd, 2009 at 7:04 am    

haha… well now you know where i am! :P

nikel

December 22nd, 2009 at 11:22 am    

nice blog u r

visit me at Nikel Khor

dOn

December 22nd, 2009 at 4:18 pm    

HI!! yes japan is a wonderful place,it would be great if you could visit there… ITS AWESOME=D

conancat

December 23rd, 2009 at 7:18 am    

aww! i wanted to go!! when i'm rich enough i will xD hahaha

conancat

December 23rd, 2009 at 7:18 am    

thanks for dropping by Nikel! :D

Nhil

December 30th, 2009 at 6:47 am    

"there are so many people in our lives that it seems that we’ve seen them forever, we’ve known them forever, yet we don’t really know them."

I agree. And weirdly enough, I just realized that last night. Sad realization.

conancat

December 30th, 2009 at 10:07 am    

yeah, it is something really sad huh? want to share your experience with me? :)

Eldy

January 1st, 2010 at 4:16 am    

Malu ma.. hahaha !

conancat

January 1st, 2010 at 3:15 pm    

u oso will malu mehh :P

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